Any spouses out there that can help me to STOP FREAKING OUT?
According to your other posts your aware that HE's avoiding the issues/his addiction all together & would be wise to not co-dependent/enable the situation any further by going in a circle w/him w/questions of WHY, WHAT, WHERE any longer for you will just emotionally exhaust yourself as you described. You would need to ask yourself some hard questions about what you want out of a relationship & how YOU want to be treated & then focus on you when you have some of thoses answers. Do you really want to live this way cause you love him & think you can change/fulfill his behavior for alot of women think they can FIX IT & is he willing to do anything about it to save/keep the relationship???????
You are right…I am not staying to fix anything or anyone…I think he needs to learn to love - to love God and to love himself - before he can love anyone else…I’m here as his friend, to support someone who has been a very good friend for most of my life and who was there for me when I needed a friend most, and now, he needs the same support only a true friend can give him…unfortunately, sometimes the “wife” gets overwhelmed and needs to be able to react like a “wife”…thank you for reminding me what this is all about…
I understand as I too was very supportive for 19yrs. at a great loss of almost loosing myself somedays & I was always very overwhelmed til I stopped. I'm not here to be right, just trying to offer support by what I've experienced & learned from my life.
Take care, April