Day 15 and still going strong. Went to dinner at Red Lobster with my husband last night and ordered a Dr. Pepper. My husband knows that 99% of the time I would have ordered a beer. He said nothing. While at dinner, we were discussing a situation with one of our daughters. I mentioned to him that quite often he comments only on the negative things, not on the positive. I thought he might get the hint. He didn't. Well, I am proud of myself and hopefully he will notice soon too.
I'm proud of you!! you are not alone in your recovery-those who don't suffer from the disease rarely understand it.Mentioning things doesn't sound like an open discussion..."when you ___,I feel ____,I need/want /wish you could____ so I can ___." Something like that-I learned in a class.Easy to relate to your pain,cuz even tho the theory of effective communication in relationships is a good thing it's hard to remember the formula when upset.Bless you in your continued sobriety -I'm here for ya !!days turn into week into years but only one day at a time...
I'm so happy for your Animallvr. Keep up the good work. You should be proud of your accomplishment. Just think how happy you will feel about yourself when he does finally acknowledge what you have done. Until then, just remember, you are giving up this bad habit for YOU. You are doing awesome.
Great advice everybody ... I'm 46 days tonight and just got back from a wedding and feeling great .. Sober and happy ... My craving has gone and my life is slowly but consistently getting better and better ... All the best
First post: Have had a history of alcohol abuse. Not necessarily falling down drunk, rather just habitual periods of having 3-5 glasses of wine. Always feel guilty afterwards and its effecting my relationships with my family. Feel like they're looking down at me when they should be looking up. I've tried stopping before and didn't have any problem, no shakes, chills, etc.
Then I'll just kind of get back to my old habits slowly when I feel stressed.
Then the circle begins: drink, wake up, feel guilty the rest of the day.
I have a lot to be thankful for so I don't know why I do this. I need to share this with someone, so I found this site. I need help
join the club jim .... i was the same not falling over but it got messy myself .... if you feel its problem than it probably is.... i ignored my addiction for a long long time ...17yrs i drank heavily ...awful ... this is a great place to vent so thanks for sharing and one day at a time .... im 46days clean today ....
Sobertoday, so glad to hear that you did not drink at the wedding. You are doing great!!!!!