Hey Im Misha and I need help. Not only do I have depression but so does my mom. For years its been only me and her. My dad died when I was six, For years ever since she was sixteen she has been beat down verbally and physically, and has developed addiction to alcohol and pain pills. I have seen her suffer for so long that I am so numb and depressed myself. she only relys on me and its hard for me to do this anymore. she has gotten to the point where she just wants to die, she keeps saying that I need to let her go, Im better off without her. does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?
You sound like a lovely caring person.There is only so much you can do for her.Your mum has to make her own choices and they may not be good ones but she is a grown women and the way she lives her life is her doing.Yes it must be heartbreaking for you to see her that way.I have a relative that is an alcoholic and i have a friendship with him because we visit him prob 5 times a year and we are not around him much to see what is really going on and that works really well for us.You can love her from the distance a bit you should not have to carry her or feel sick yourself.I do understand you i have another family friend whos life is full of drammers and i get so sick of hearing about it and i feel sick with stress and worry about her and her life it affects my life and how i feel i now love her but distance myself a bit for space because i want to enjoy my life and not feel sad about her and her messed up life and love her and wish her the best.She looks after her self and eats well but always has personal problems going on with men it just never stops.Talk soon.
Hey Misha,
Can I ask your age? I am so sorry that you and your mam are going through this. It is really sad to hear that your mam doesn't believe that her life isn't worth living anymore. It sounds like you are the thing that is keeping her going, so don't give up on her.
I know this may sound difficult but you could have her admitted...if someone is a danger to themselves or the public they should go into hospital. I realise that this decision comes filled with much guilt...but your mum is not well at present. Depression is a serious illness and it's gone to the stage where it could cause your mother's death.
Do you have any aunts or uncles or grandparents to turn too to support you through this. i know you love your mum very much and this would be hard to do..but it is for her good and it will hopefully put her in a place where she comes back to herself.
I am sorry for the loss of you father, I am sure it was very hard and at such a young age you must miss him. but he is with you because he is part of you.
Keep coming back here for support and let us know how you are feeling and if you think you would be able to make that decision.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Much love
Moongal x