Surf I just found out my wife of 27 years is cheating on meSurf I just found out my wife of 27 years is cheating on

Surf
I just found out my wife of 27 years is cheating on me with two possibly three different men. She wasn’t deleting their text messages from her phone. I read them when syncing her phone on the computer and she doesn’t know I read them. After I visit my attorney I believe it is time to let her know her life is about to change by:
1). Calling each guy and letting them know my soon to be ex-wife needs a place to live.
2). Send a group text to all three at once informing them that she is cheating on me, but also each of them. Four rooters in the hen house do not work.
3). Logging in to our cell phone account and randomly blocking the three numbers off and on throughout the day then do 1 or 2.
4). Use her iPad to send them messages supposedly from her, but call them the wrong name.

Any other ideas or votes on which I should do?

Do none of those things. Meet w your attorney and follow his advise. A "clever" attorney can try to make text mgs (without photos, cc receipts for trusts) appear like "harmless" or worst case "inappropriate" banter.

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I agree. Try not to act on harsh emotions. You will have a ton, feel the emotions but don't let them make you into someone you dont want to be. I would keep the proof,then talk to a professional if you are sure divorce is what you want. Take care of your self and get you mental state together. Vent all you want here, get or what you wish you could do here ;)

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Good advice my attorney told me that having the phone logs will come in handy later on in the process. Also my attorney said that “Subpoena” is her favorite word when she knows the records exist and that all three gentlemen will get to know her.
I need to just take one step at a time be patient and heal.
Thanks

@Surf I’m so sad for you. Be sure to surround yourself with solid friends and support. Even when you “win” the divorce, it is still devastating.

Help I need advice I just found out that my wife is going to hook up tonight with one of her guys. I know when and where I want to show up and catch them in the act.
Should I or should I not?

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I would be careful with that idea. … you could see more than you want, or act on harsh emotions. …

I dont think i would, please think this through..

Think ahead for a second... What would happen when catch them? What benefit would it do for you?

Well, did you do it? How do you feel?

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