Thanks for the quick respons

Their are other issues going on with him, according to him, I was the perfect wife, going to work everyday, coming home cooking dinner, keeping a clean house. He has lost his job by way of layoffs 5 of the 6 years we have been married. With the recent layoff he feels that I have been carrying him our entire marrage and he needs to be able now be a "man" we are both latin and he has also been depressed since he lost his job.

I am in the process of putting in applications in anticipation of moving back to FL, however his concern now is "what will my family say" if all works out and we get back together. I have tried to reassure him that i married him and i don't really care what my family say's we have made a committment to each other, however he is not very forthcoming with his feelings. He calls a few times a day to see how my day's are going. he sounds genuine however, i don't know if this is to make him feel better about leaving me completely alone.

I have asked repeatedly what made him decide to move w/o discussing it with me, and his answer is "he has issues" and doesn't want to use me and take advantage of me anymore.

Do i just accept my situation and continue to keep the lines of communication in hopes that he realizes that we are married and he can't figure it out for us if "us" are not going to counseling together?

Welcome to Support Groups, your a very stable, strong person I'd sure listen to your gut instincts & move forward since he is not willing to take responsibility for all in this situation & future goals in life together, gotta hand it to him w/some of the honesty you've said he mentioned previously. Whereas I do realize women are the nesters & want to keep the families intacted this may not be what you would want to learn directly or indirectly in life from the ones that surround you as he sounds like he GAVE UP awhile ago & you can sense that I'm sure. Please think it through & I admire you for posting & we're all here for you. I'm sorry.

Take care of you

April

thanks april. I will be a reqular since i feel as though i am along. all of the friends i have made are the wives of his friends some have expressed their non acceptance of him and what he did, but others just say they are here for me. I don’t feel as though they can help.

I appreciate you being honest.