I suffer from a lot of intrusive thoughts. One of my fears is travelling or a family member travelling. I have every bad scenario possible going thru my mind. My wife is leaving tomorrow for Florida for her Sisters wedding. I have known for a month, resisited at first, the relented. Now the closer it gets, the more I am bugging out. I don't know what to do. Please help.
My prayers are with you and everything will be fine. Positive thoughts are healing and with everyday practice you will feel better. God bless you.
Do you have any positive hobbies? I know it can be extremely hard to focus on anything except the thoughts but for me, distracting myself and learning to breath is vital. Or finding a montra- even if it's repeating, "it will be ok" and list the reasons why, or why I should be happy over and over. Everything will be ok.
omg, it must be a nightmare for you. I really feel for you and what you must go through with this. It must be horrible for you to have to live with this.
However, the honest truth is, whether you think these thoughts or not, if an accident is going to happen it will happen no matter what you're thinking.
How about try repeating this. I learnt it when I was really small.
Never trouble trouble 'til trouble troubles you
You're only double trouble and trouble others too.
Thank you everyone! I worked alot this weekend to keep my mind occupied. The nights were the hardest though!
Ryan how are you today?
Please remember your thoughts do not harm you or others. If you think about it rationally, intrusive thoughts or any form of OCD, OR ANXIETY, is really about the false abuse of power relating to manipulation and control.
If you think it, we do not have the power to simply ' think' something awful is going to happen. Do we? so ocd and intrusive thoughts are a game of two minds of varying degrees of setting on thought against the other.
Your rational thinking knows that realistically the possiblities you tell yourself , or what you feel or believe is going to happen, will not.
For the OCD SUFFERER, ALL MINOR EVENTS AND EVERYDAY EVENTS, HAVE THE SAME MEASURE OF FALSE POWER. Over restimating the consequences as terrible and fearful instead of looking for the evidence that something bad is going to happen.
This is anticipation. Believing that the worse will happen rather than clear evidence that something has happened. Please do not worry about what you believe your internal critic is telling you.
Think about safety issues and clear boundaries of appropiate levels of measuring the probability of what is expected to happen.
For example
a Plane crash... on a scale of 1 to 10, how would rate the level of saftey? How often do you beleive this is likely to happen?
Travelling to work. on a scale to 1 to 10 do the same.
Tip:
Measure your unrealistic false sense of Power thinking, to realistic outcomes.
This is about trusting in your own JUDGMENTS, NOT THE ILL INFORMED WRONG AND CONTRIDICATORY JUDGEMENTS OF THE INTERNAL CRICTIC.
Hope all is well.