Things had been getting better

I haven't posted in a while...so a quick update. Things had been getting better in the past week or two. I got my wedding rings back, my husband moved back in, we started to hang out and talk more with less arguing...it was nice. I am however still walking on eggshells and being careful about what I say and do. I am trying my hardest to really focus and pay attention to what he is talking about and really listen to him. For the most part I felt like I was doing ok with it. I know I am not perfect and certainly need some work, but its not something I can change immediately overnight, I am a work in progress. I have also been feeling better about myself and my depression lately. I did start on zoloft last week and slowly getting used to it. And then yesterday happened....

So my husband and I had switched cars for a while since he does a lot of driving and I really don't do much. I had his car yesterday and got into what I felt was a minor accident. I rearended a woman at a stop light. It was in traffic and I wasn't going very fast. When I looked at the car, I didn't really think there was a lot of damage. Well my husband looked this morning and needless to say he flipped. He said there were a few things with the hood that I failed to mention to him. He claims he wasn't mad I got into the accident but feels I lied to him about how bad it really was. Which I don't feel like I did and I tried to explain that to him, however that just made him even more mad at me and he ended up hanging up on me. I feel awful enough about the accident as it is and now I feel even worse because he thinks I lied about it. I don't know what to say to him because if I try explaining myself he just says I'm digging myself into a deeper hole and I just needed to be honest in the first place and then if I don't say anything its me ignoring the situtaion and not facing reality. I can't seem to win.

Hi Want2bstronger, I am so happy that you are back with us, it is so good to hear from you, thank you so much for the update. I am so thrilled to hear that you and your husband are doing better on the whole and that he moved back in. I am so happy that you are okay after the fender bender, and please don't feel badly about it. You didn't do anything wrong; he was just probably upset about damage to his car and took it out on your unfortunately. If you can, try to put it behind you and keep moving forward on this wonderful path. I know that things will continue on the up up and up for you.