Things were going so well for us last week. I hardly thought about it at all. Then she made an (expected) appearance Friday, bringing a date to his show and the cycle has started all over for me. He says she is quite obviously making appearances to upset me. I say she's not over him. The whole time she was hanging on this date in her drunken stupor, she was looking at my husband. She even had the audacity to bring her date to the backstage area and sit right behind us. The entire band was irritated and angry. She knows that NO ONE wants her around, yet she keeps coming around.Yesterday I started thinking about emailing her mother and ratting her out. Why not, her actions affected my family and his family, why should her's go unscathed. I started thinking about revenge again. Then my anger turned on him. I started thinking about how instead of leaving the backstage he could have grabbed me and started making out with me in front of her. I started wondering if he was watching her body as she danced like a hooker in front of him. I wondered if he was jealous of her date. I started thinking about how I thought my marriage was perfect until I found out about them. It truly was the worst surprise of my life. I never saw it coming, even in hindsight. I felt like things were perfect last week, am I being naive? Am I seeing progress in him that isn't true? Am I just trying to convince myself that things are going well for us? Am I being duped again? My blood pressure shot up last night while I was trying to sleep and I ended up getting out of bed, checking his phone, checking his computer and feeling both justified and guilty for doing it. I thought to myself, "you're wasting your time he has already deleted any evidence." Then I thought, "Stop this behavior, he's really trying, it's really over between them." It's so conflicting.
In time she will go away when she realizes that she's not getting the response from you or him she was hoping for, try and egnor her she's making an *** of herself, just sit back and watch the humor of her. Don't contact her mum as she will say something and then she will know she's getting to you. You have the power over her, you won your hubby chose you not her, relish in that thought when you see her next. Haha
She will be insignificant to him as your marriage will be better than ever. This was a desperate attempt that she was making. By playing into her drama and contacting anyone including her or her Mother, stoops you to a new low. That would satisfy a need for her that she can get to you and will open up a can of worms and way too much drama. It I'll unleash lots of more bad behavior. That is exactly what she wants and will make her feel powerful. Also will make her seem more powerful than she is in the eyes of your sweetheart. Just shower him with extra love and attention and the sleazy tramp will be a sloppy drunk disgusting memory for him. She is trash. Give her not a thought. Put the trash to the curb where it belongs and feel triumphant that you have what she is desperate to get. You are the winner. You are class as you did not respond in ways to bring you to her level. Have faith and hope. I know it is hard but you can rise above this. ((Hugs))