This is the worst I've felt in I don't even know when, husband says I just don't love you like that any more. I want a divorce! That was 6 weeks ago, we will be divorced on June 15th. I just don't get it we have been together for 13 years. And out of the blue just like that done! I'm hurt and broken, can't sleep we have had a great reltionship, no problems and he has fallen for a women 1700 miles away. I just don't get it!!!
@stealersgirl? you don't get it? Let me help you: I had the EXACT SAME THING happen to me.....so let me please tell you that it's not over yet.....he left me for her, we went through the whole divorce and THREE YEARS after all the dust settles he comes back and PLEADS!!!!!!!!!!!! for a second chance through my family (because they would not reveal any of my contact info. to him)(apparently after these romances "fizzle", these types of partners think you will just take them back with open arms....I told my family to tell him I was not going to ever see his face again after what he did to us.......he threw away everything that I had worked 12 years!!!! to create. He crushed my family's lives and some of my nephews still say they have "post traumatic stress" by the devastation they saw the divorce cause me, my parents and my sister........I did not get married to get divorced, and he thought he was just going to come back and "make nice" and I was just going to take him back like nothing ever happened???? BE PREPARED: HE WILL BE BACK.....it's not as "over" as you think it is. He will be back, and then you will be faced with whether or not you can take him back.
@Diamond69 Can I expand on what I wrote? I want everyone to know that each person DEALS DIFFERENTLY with divorce…for me and my family? The divorce that my husband so desperately wanted (and got) absolutely left us all in shattered pieces…it was horrible what we all went through as a family…divorce leaves so many people broken, leaves a wake of destruction, and some people are left barely functional…time has helped. I’m 5 years out of my marriage and to this day the pain still lingers.
That is what I am afraid of, that this is not ever going to end, even tho the divorce will be final. That is why I have to move out of this state, to get as far away from him as possible. Divorce is not like Death. Death it is over, divorce just lingers. I pray that the start of 2016 will be better than the year of 2015.
@TeedupinTX I agree, death terminates everything; divorce lingers forever.
You divorced? Or staying married to your spouse who cheated on you? I hope it works out for you, but let's be realistic. You will never really trust her again. Once that trust is broken, well, it is broken. I wish you the best, I know it hurts.
This is the fifth time my stbx has left. I took him back four times. He left because he was no longer happy w me, he asked to come back because he realized he was not happy without me. No More! And Not Again.
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@Broadsided Nobody should have to live like that so my advice, “Go and start living”. Let’s do it together. Where my mind is right now is where do i find single people in my age group? I dont think I am ready for Match etc, so I am going to volunteer and mentor small businesses. I think that all of us have to be creative in our thinking. I am open to hearing suggestions.
My marriage ended after thirteen years too. You're not alone.
Do you have kids?
Mine is ending after 15 years and it's not easy but you are not alone!