What's the best way to use this site? I seem to be stuck in the time zone difference.Log on when I have time-don't get immediate replies-frustrated cuz I want to help-need help-any suggestions.thanx for reading this,God bless all who've had the courage to come to this website for help.Now I gotta got to work!! no journal today. maybe I need to practice more patience...
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i am impatient sometimes to because i like to know the answer right away. i have to tell myself that they may be in a different time zone. some people on here are from different time zones so im sure they will get back to you. probably when your awake their asleep. vice versa. people are usually really good about getting back to you. im here if you wanna talk as well. hope you have a good day or night at work.
thanx for that I just have to remember patience-for example-I wrote this at 20 after 1 my time and you replied 2 oclock -I was on my way to work- now I'm home and need to vent but nobody will answer til tommorow when I get up-their in bed.So now I can whine that there was about 2 hours of chaos tonight-sometimes I wonder if I can continue,but I wasn't born rich..So I came to this site on a recommendation of an aquaintance,looking to give support cuz I don't give my phone # to newbies in AA and feel guilty-but since I've come here I've gotten alot of support that I didn't think I needed-go figure.So God bless and good night-knowing others like me are here helps alot-AA meeting don't cover everything,drugs,codependent,bipolar etc. Thanx again to all who join me on this site for continued recovery of this dis-ease called life :)
donnak yes i definately love this site because you can talk about anything and everything. like you said some support places dont cover everything and i feel like this place does and there are amazing people on here that help u through everything. i dont like to give my number out either. i dont like to let people come to my house. there isnt nothing wrong with it. i just worry that they will say something behind my back and nit pick about stupid stuff. like did you see this or that. it has taken me awhile to start letting friends come over because people can say oh everything is fine dont worry and then they say stuff when they leave. here i go on a completely different subject. sorry i ramble on sometimes. hope your day is going well and i wanted to tell you that i love that picture of the dog at the window is that your baby?
I understand getting frustrated when you need help or support and you don't get a reply right away. I (having no life and not very many friends at the moment) get on here very often and immediately post a comment on new/recent/uncommented posts to try to help cut down on that frustration. I know one day I really needed help on here and didn't get a response until I actually hurt myself. There are a lot of people on here though that are from all over who are willing to help and I know people like me who don't sleep take the night shift on here.
yes, yes I love the fact that I can post at all hours and if no response can maybe try to help out someone else out. I've never in my life been a person who lives by the clock -- I mean I kept trying to fit myself into that peg, but failed. Finally had to accept that and fit my life/job etc around me and not the rest of the world, but is hard to get acceptance from may people if you don't follow the so-called norm. Have always felt socially awkward, and go between trying to please everyone, getting overwhelmed, and then withdrawing. Seems like here I can come and vent without dealing with all the superficial gossip, etc
Have also thought of myself as a helpful person, who at this stage of my life has no one to help (no one needs me, waah), but am really resistant to tie myself to a volunteer schedule. this really helps me feel useful, and also this site gives me great support for all my various insecurities and foibles. I know what you mean about not being able to make amends, have made posts wish I could take back, don't make sense to me later
but I think one of the points of this site is that there is no need to make amends! So thanx for listening, thats all that one can do
What time zone are you in? I myself live in Erie,Penn,I am on here eastern time starting at 5:00am and I am on off and on untill about4:30pm.Just in case you need someone to talk to.God Bless friend.{Keeping the Faith}
I know what you mean about an immediate response. Sometimes it is frustrating. On the other hand, unlike a live AA meeting, where cross talk is discouraged, on this people respond directly to your question.
The other thing I like is that we can think through the most helpful response since there's not a "your turn to talk", like there is in an AA meeting.
BTW, don't get me wrong, I depend on my AA friends too.
dwindowclner ~ Yes, are right in many ways I like this site. One is like you say it gives you a chance to think things through. Because I got to tell you I have said some pretty stupid shit at a AA meeting because I didn’t have a chance to think things through.Just a character defect one of many LOL.God Bless have a good one.{keeping the Faith}
I posted something about an hour ago hoping for a responce but nothing yet. I got on here for support but I know patience is a virtue or a four letter word in my book.
I go to AA too and your right they don't cover everything that we go through when we decide to get clean and sober. Hell mysponsor sometimes looks at me like she doesn't know what to tell me.
Good luck. I hope you get the support your hoping for.
CJ
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@cj44 What are you going through right now? I will try to help, after i have some coffee. lol
yes i think waiting is the only thing you can do, i check & post through day and night (obviously not cpnstantly, i do wrk and sleep) but if you need to talk about something i check most of the time, just an offer...
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