today is my NARC's birthday. gonna do EVERYTHING in my power to not cave!! was feeling very strong last night and this morning...as the day moves on i feel a tug.....
reminders and support are very very very welcomed!
Just remember that it's most likely whatever u get him for a present will not be good enough and in fact could be used against u as of u knew that anything less then a million dollars is a bs cop out. Don't go above n beyond it will go unappreciated. Honestly I would do the bare minimum cuz u could b "paying for it" later either way good luck
oh i am not sending or getting him anything! i made him a memory book - with pics of me - 40 smiles for 40 years of his life....i was going to do 4 days of 40, day 1 40 small gifts of things i know he loves, day 2 40 things i like about him, day 3, 40 things i want us to experience together, then day 4 was gonna be the pic book with 40 smiles.. i trashed it ALL!!
i was even going to order him a gooey butter chocolate german cake and have it sent to his office.....cancelled that order!
hes not getting anything from me. i try and tell myself that i dont matter to him, that my attention is nothing more than a dip in his pool.....it just hard to believe that when my mind floods with all the loving crap he said to me.
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Do not cave in you won't get the reaction you're hoping for Hun well done for being so strong it's hard but you deserve more xx hang in there
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Dont make him feel any more special than he already thinks he is. He prob wouldn't call u. NO CONTACT speaks volumes. Higs