Today is the second day I allowed my husband to come back home. He asked me if I would cook something for tomorrow. In my mind I was asking if he is freaking serious? Does he really think I want to cook for him? Is he in a f denial?
If I don't cook does it mean I don't care? That I don't want to fix it? If I do cook, maybe he thinks all is good now, that we are back to normal.
What the hell am I supposed to do?? I'm not ready to do things like that for him yet.
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There's nothing wrong with letting him know it's time for him to take care of you. He had lots of energy for others before, now he can put his energy into you.
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He needs a clue into what he has done. After dday for me, there were days my husband had to literally pick me up and get me going. I wanted nothing to do with anything. I didn't even cook for my kids many evening (ages 11,8,3) I was too broken. Take care of your self and let him know you are in survival mode. And if he wants to work on the marriage, he needs to try to understand and be supportive.
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@Jenn7814 at the same time, when you can function,or think that maybe you can, so him you are trying. If he is truly remorsful he is struggling some to and he needs to see his effort is worth it. He needs some hope.
Just tell him you are not ready to cook yet. The answer is yes he will want to put all this behind you. Wish it were that easy. But every day will get a little better. Have hope. Sending you strength and ((hugs)). God's peace.