I want to write something and reach out, but I am feeling too shy right now. Does anyone else feel this way ever??? sigh....
yah i use to feel that way but ive been taking clases in school that have been breaking my shell and helps me get in front of people. From what ive learned is dont care what people think about what your doing. Just go ahead and say what you want. Like my friend always tells me in that class if it takes you more then a second to decide if your going to or not you never will.
Thanks tiggusman, good suggestion. It occured to me after writing this that the people who feel the same might be too shy to respond, sometimes I just say what's on my mind, but I think I do best when I think a while about what to say before I say it, if I speak to fast it could be taken the wrong way or not be understood. I worry too much, but I love the people on supportgroups, you are all wonderful!
too shy to write? heck yeah. until recently that was exactly where i was at. i am still too shy to go to a support group in person, but i am hoping to overcome that soon. good for you for reaching out. very brave of you.
warm wishes
sun
all those folks out there reading this post and are still too shy to write, its ok we will be here waiting for ya when you are ready...(smiles)
I have always been shy, especially when it comes to anyone I know reading what I write.
Well I am the opposite there, I love to meet new people and share, even my poetry helps me and hopefully others also, well looking forward to more of your post
Hugs
Frederick
aka The Wandering Poet
I totally get your post. I grew up VERY shy, and diagnosed with a social phobia..so this makes sense to me. My first thought was to ask you what ideas are swimming around in your head when you want to reach out- what thoughts or expectations come up for you. It would be good to journal on that and see what ur mind is telling you. So often we have irrational fears and beliefs that keep us from interacting or sharing with others. It may feel like you are being vulnerable, maybe your voice was not listed to very much growing up or you encountered rejection when u were vulnerable. It can be hard to leave the past in the past...we seem to carry it with us in the form of old beliefs about ourselves and others. See if you can see which ideas have any evidence or validity. Do you worry about rejection or being judged, if so, ask yourself what that would look like - and how realistic that is. Many times, our fears really aren't justified- there are no monsters under the bed...
I am so glad u confronted a fear by posting here...GOOD FOR YOU!
Best,
Kellie Montgomery< LMFT
Thanks for all the support. Nice to get a professional opinion too, thank you. I have fears of making terrible mistakes. Fears of being rejected (yes that happened at a time when I was very confident and a time when I was vulnerable, too) My voice was not listened to much growing up. I never felt I fit in anywhere, so I tried to fit in everywhere, and now I feel fine in most any situation and make friends with almost anyone, but I can't shake the stress and fear of not belonging. The fear of being rejected again and not knowing why I was rejected when I had felt I was becoming confident enough to leave shyness behind. In shyness there is a bubble of protection it seems. You can just avoid people who may be out to pop your bubble, and float along. It's just that shyness is a lonely place to live. Today, I have a husband and friends that love me, so I am living in the past when I get shy. I just want to be free to belong, to know there is nothing wrong with me, there is only something wrong with people who exclude others unjustly and make former friends feel unwelcome. Maybe I can share this story and get that freedom.
Hi Lovee,
Awesome way to put that .. thank you for being here and always here if and when you need me ..
Hugs
Frederick
Thank you!
The past 2 years have been really hard for me. My husband of almost 30 years left me for another woman. I have a lot of health issues. I am on oxygen 24/7 so it's very difficult for me to get around. I have no children, my parents are dead, I have 7 sisters but they all have families of their own. I'm having a hard time dealing with the lonliness. I' afraid that one day I will give in to the desperation.
Hello 'tialyn96' -
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Dear tialyn,
Welcome to support groups. I am so sorry you are going through all this at once. Sometimes people say things here that make us take everything in perspective. This is one of those times. I think you would benefit so much from taking the time to talk to someone, a counselor you like and trust. It may take a while to find the right one, so keep looking until you do, and have faith in your inner strength too. If you need a support friend, I'm here. You will be in my prayers,
hell-o again how are you today Lovee?
Hi Tialyn96 I know what you are feeling but know this we are here to help and give you all the support you need.. feel free to msg. anyone here for we are here to help and recieve help...
Frederick
I too was once a extremely shy guy but I've went from that to a confident introvert. The shy person is not to be confused with the introvert (who doesn’t have a lack of belief in oneself, but instead feels more adequate in more intimate social settings). The confident, introverted guy is super sexy to a girl.
Here is full my story iusedtobethatguy.com/from-shy-guy-to-confident-introvert/
Also feel free to check out my other inspirational stories that shaped me into a new person I can look in the mirror with pride.