I feel like I am really trying to put myself out there but maybe I am not out enough. Work exhausts me to the point where I don't have energy to get out more than one or two times per week. When I do go out, I tend to see a lot of my male friends, thus precluding me from meeting new people. This is ok at times, because I absolutely love and adore my friends, but it would be nice to meet new people. I have also been online dating for over one week now, which I know is a short period of time, but I feel like there is no one that clicks yet. I have been dating forever, with relationships here and there in between, and it's all very exhausting both emotionally and physically. I am trying to power through this, but I really don't know how much more I have in me. Between my workload and trying to date, it's all really overwhelming and stressful rather than exciting.
I am just feeling a bit blue over being single, as I am beyond ready to meet that right person. I want to keep moving forward and I would like to stay so positive, but I feel like I am really being worn down at the moment.
Hey Puppy,
Hate to hear you feeling so blue, but remember you are not alone in feeling this way. Many of us singeltons get that "argh I'm sick of being single, where is he already" syndrome...but he will come, i promise you that.
You have been very stressed over the past while so I think this break is going to do you the world of good. Do continue to get out there but enjoy yourself, you always meet the best fellas when you never expect to meet them. And as for the internet dating thing, just keep moving from guy-to-guy until you find the one you click with.
You don't have to waste time trying to find a connection with someone you are not clicking with on-line because it's just a waste of both people's time. So don't worry about that. Geez that sounds really heartless of me, but it's obviously putting a lot of strain on you and in the long run over and back emailing when you don't want to meet someone isn't great, so just stop emailing back, they will get the hint and don't worry it's not terrible. They may say "oh what a little bi***" but they will get over it.
And there will be one that I guarantee you will get excited about:)
Don't forget hun, you can meet "the guy" anywhere, I met one of mine through friends and another, the two of us were the only ones awake after a house party and we decided to head off to breakfast together (a very romantic begining a very bitter end...haha). But basically he is anywhere so don't forget that.
So whenever you hear that inner voice going "gotta go find him"...tell it to shut up, because you run into him in a half hour.
Love to you hun
Moongal x
Moongal, if I haven't told you once, I'll tell you a million more times, you are truly the best! Your comment pepped me up so much and it's exactly how I have been feeling all day. I talked this through with a friend who is always telling me that I don't put myself out there enough and that I have to put myself out more in order to meet someone. I told them that I am wanting and willing to meet someone, but have to take any and all pressure off of myself. I love going out with my friends and really enjoy spending time with my male and female friends. We have a great group and I am not going to do the girls-only outings just for the purpose of meeting someone. I have lifted off that pressure; the pressure of looking for love. My gut has always told me that it will happen when it's supposed to happen; not a moment sooner and not a moment later.
I think that all of the pressure all around me is what drove me crazy and really made me feel this way, thus my post. I feel so much lighter and freer now.
Thank you again for all of your love and support! Sending you so many good happy positive vibes.
I don't understand why people feel they HAVE to find someone, HAVE to be in a relationship, HAVE to get pregnant, etc. Where are the rules that say these things? The year that I spent totally alone in a new city, between marriages, was the best year I ever had. I really got to know myself, and really started to like myself. I was doing well at university, I was cycling about 150 kms per week, looked great, felt great. I had two boyfriends that year, and after the second one ended badly, I decided that was IT, I was going to live alone and love it, not look for anyone ever again. I can't tell you how absolutely happy I was, and I often think back to that year when my depression hits, and I try to feel the way I did then, do the things I did then that made me feel so good. It was perfect.
Of course, that's when I met my soulmate, purely by accident, and we have been joined at the hip ever since (12 years). But that was the best time to meet the right person - when I was totally happy with myself and didn't NEED anybody. Being single can be fabulous, if you just let it be.
Food for thought, I hope?
Hi Birdygirl, thank you so much for sharing your wonderful story. I love it. I have never ever felt the need to be married or have children, and I've been blessed with an amazing family that has supported me in my business ventures and never put pressure on me to get married. Well, I have been single for quite some time now, and its been great. I have loved and embraced every moment, though you do get to a point in your life when you are finally ready to share it with someone else....not because of societal pressures whatsoever...that has nothing at all to do with it. It's something that I want in my heart and soul, though I am willing to be patient through it. It's not always easy, as I do have my moments, but for the most part I have always powered through it.