My boyfriend of over two years left me saying that he doesn't love me three weeks ago. I have been completely devastated ever since then and I know that I'm going to slip into clinical depression if this doesn't stop. He is saying that his decision is final but he is showing signs that he is still in love with me. He said that he is now straight. However, he keeps all the gifts I ever bought him displayed for all to see. One of them is a teddy bear that I bought him when we first got together. He still sleeps with it and told me that when he dies, he is to be buried with the teddy bear. To me those are signs that he is still in love with me. Yet, he refuses to admit it. We even had sex the weekend after he broke up with me. I'm just sitting back seeing what happens because his anxiety gets triggered really easily so I don't want to make him think that I am trying to push him. However, it is hard for me to do. I'm crying all the time and have started losing interest in doing everything I like to do. I have codependency issues where people are concerned and have went to counselors about them before but that just didn't help. I'm dwelling on this so much and I'm starting to scare myself because I am finding myself wishing that I had the guts to just end it for good. don't worry, I don't. really the only thing keeping me from slitting my wrists is my family because of what it would do to them. I'm just afraid that it may get to the point where I don't even care about that.
Hey there. Hmmm sounds like he still has feelings for you by sleeping with the bear. Try keeping a friendship open with him, maybe suggest dating again, like in the beginning..? Im sure you have tried asking him that.. I get separation anxiety and codependency needs, so I know how you must be feeling. Nothing will make the pain go away, only time. You need to force yourself to go out and see your friends, and keep busy at work, keep your mind occupied, easier said than done i know. Let me know how you get one.
Karen
hi frank and welcome
i guess it is tough for u at the moment but please give consuling another try, u might find one u like it could be important in your own recovery.
i dont wish to upset u further but u are pinnin hopes on the fact he hasnt thrown your gifts away and "he sleeps with teddy"
teddy might just b a comforter at this stage against his anxieties and nothing more or it could mean something.
but in the meanwhile u need to sort out your own issues
keep the lines of communication open with him and work on what u need to do for yourself, if this is an enduring relationship u owe it to yourself to b the best u can b and ultimately who ever u are in a partnership with u owe it to them,
keep posting and chattin
loving thoughts and positive vibes
Hi Frank. I just know breakups are hard on any kind of relationship. It doesnt matter if u are straight or curly. It hurts. But from what u r saying I think ur boyfriend still likes u. Maybe he have other isues that he wants to escape. Maybe his family. Have u tried asking him? N please dont hurt yourself it only makes things worse. Since u care about ur family, means u hv a.nice family. So lucky treasure them dont let them feel hurt. Imagine u hurt yourself they would b devastated. We are here. Just share ur feelings so u feel better. thats y we r here. Hope u guys can work things out. If it doesnt maybe your future boyfriend will be even.better. u never know. Hugs***