...so the day i went to the hospital, i had lost my phone cuz i was so drunk i guess i had dropped it or something two days i spent walking around my neighborhood hoping id find it in the street or something i paid an online service to help track it...turned out to be a scam cried over this phone because there was sensitive material in it and i dont have money for a new one cuz i got fired i had to suspend my line tell me other boss from my second job to put my moms number on there since i dont have it anymore ive been having to borrow my sister or moms phone to make important phone calls ive had to message my bf through facebook and my dad just comes into my room to tell me hes had my phone all along!!!!!!!!!!!!! wtf! now hes mad cuz i got mad he hadnt told me sooner and my mom wont let me breath cuz she doesnt wanna leave me alone for the fear il go drink cuz im so mad i feel suffocated and annoyed right now! they wont even let me go out for a smoke grrrrrrrrr
Please understand that your parents are "smothering" you because they love you and are fearful that you will end up hurting yourself or worse. The truth be told, they are watching you so close because of your own actions. But we are all in this situation, and in this group, because of our own actions. Be true to yourself and get yourself better. It will take time and won't be easy. But you'll find that your parents will regain their trust in you as you get better. The story about your father having your phone sucks. It obviously caused you a lot of grief. But I'm sure you can have your old line reinstated, at least the sensitive info didn't fall into the wrong hands. A lot of problems between parents and their kids occur because of poor communication. Sorry, but that is the way of the world. It will never change. Parents don't know how to talk to their kids and kids don't know how to talk to their parents. Just have to learn to cope with it. Take a deep breath and stay calm.
Kenzie,
If your phone has GPS you might be able to track it through your carrier, the manufacturer or on line . Hopefully the battery is still charged.........Vennum
Kenzie-sometimes you have to let things go to recover from the madness of alcoholism!Please hang in there you can and will stay sober if you continue to reach out for help.So try to remember that your parents love you but they probably lost their book on how to be good parents-jk.You don't get to pick who your born to but you get to pick how to react.
vennum-thanks for the advice id already tried all that but i mean, my dad gave me my phone back...he had it along so im good with that now lol
donnak-yea, i know i have to let some things go its just hard right now, everything is ticking me off i guess its the stress of not having the drink im really on edge but i apologized for acting soo angry toward him i know he did it cuz i was bad, but still...it was annoying lol
roxbury-thanks for reminding me that being parents can be really hard, especially to an alcoholic child but im trying really hard to understand them and i know theyre doing their best too we're starting family therapy soon so i help that helps a lot :)
alcoholism is a hard thing to recover from. i am glad to hear that you are going to get help with therapy. it is possible to beat it. i am a quarter cherokee so i have beat the odds. alot of people say that indians like to drink and are alcoholics.i dont like to believe that. of course my grandfather was full blooded cherokee and im sure he was an alcholic because the whole family is on my dads side. never got to meet my grandfather though. i think i would have become one if it hadnt been for my husband though because i used to love to drink. i used to drink the hard stuff. whiskey and other things. i just loved how bein drunk made me feel. i didnt have a care in the world and i was havin fun. i have learned though that there are other ways to have fun and that when drunk as im sure you know can get us in bad situations. most of the time nothing good comes out of it. i hope you have an easier time finding a job and know that you will be in my prayers for things to get better for you and im glad you found your phone.
Vennum, I think it is wonderful that you are going to go to family therapy. If some of the pressures of family life can be minimized or eliminated through therapy, than you will have it that much easier getting better with the other issues. I know you can do this. Anytime you want to vent, you know where to do it!!!
Roxbury,
Thanks for the support, unfortunately you've got me confused with someone. I do enjoy your posts however your advice is logical,knowledgeable and is founded in truth......Vennum
Your feelings are the products of the insanity and unmanagability of drinking, (steps 1 and 2) has nothing to do with your mom or dad, is all about your drink. If you hadn't got drunk in the first place, whatever followed wouldn't have happened. Blame yourself. If it helps, just vegetate and watch movies for a few weeks during all your free time. While you're at it, dump the ciggies too. Just sleep and watch movies, anything to keep your mind from wandering to insanity thoughts of drink and smoke. By the end of a few weeks, your brain should be sufficiently clear of alcohol and nicotine drug influence to function better, think more clearly and soundly, including appreciating your parents not supporting your drama. Then, at that point, you will be in a better frame of mine to think about better things to do. You're young, healthy, sassy... Great fodder for getting on with having a great life! Go for your brightest hopes and dreams!
Jessjane,
You have a real subtle way of expressing yourself.I too offer brutally honest advice and suggestions But you don't have to be nasty about it.Now thats a nice way of being brutally honest.
Do you really think Kenzie is that far gone into her "insanity"? t sounds like you've been around the block more than once with alcohol .This is a subject I'm not personally involved in but I've seen it close up and from a distance but I will not pretend I've experienced it.So I'll generalize the subject to addiction and leave it at that and addiction is something I know quite well . I'm sure we'll bump into one another again................Vennum
Best of luck to you! I am glad you have loving parents. If they were not in some way driving you crazy, then they wouldn't care. I have two teenage daughters and it is hard being a mom, but even harder to teenage girls. Doesn't make sense to you now, but will eventually it will then you will find yourself wanting to help others. I hope you find your way through the alcoholism, it isn't easy!
gee i didnt know i was going to get scolded by certain ppl on here...if you dont have anything nice to say then dont post comments at all thanx for being understanding...those of you who are i know my rants can be really whiney but isnt that what this site is for? to vent when youre going through certain situations without feeling judged? im not that far gone to the point of insanity im a very caring person i love my parents and i know right now im just really irritable and i always apologize when i feel ive exaggerated today is my first one on one therapy...kinda nervous to have to open up to a stranger :/ but i know in the end it'll be worth it i know my drinking is a result of all the stuff i've been through with sexual abuse, not having my father, and depression which i've never learned to cope with its a scary thought having to relive evrything in order to heal wish me luck guys! and thanks for all the support!
Who is scolding you? I thought the posts back to you were very nice and offered support. And if you took my comment as scolding then you took it completely wrong. I will refrain from commenting on your posts to avoid any future issues.
That was my first post but then I read through the thread and apparently I missed one and I agree it was uncalled for. We are here for support, not to parent or scold you. I apologize that I took it personally seems how your post was right after mine. I don't think any of us signed up for tough love, we signed up for support. Good luck Kenzie!!
i totally agree that this site is to help others. were not here to judge other people. were here to be supportive and help eachother out. i didnt know if it was just me but i also thought there was an offensive comment. just know that there are wonderful people on this site that are wonderful and are supportive and know you can talk to us anytime. wishing you the best and i hope your having a wonderful day. :)
Kenzie,
Something tells me you can hold your own when it comes to expressing yourself.Try not to worry so much over what might be,you"ll do fine with a therapist.Once you have some type of trusting relationship then open up.Matter of fact hold out on opening up use it like a carrot in front of the horse.This will not only gain respect from the therapist it may give you the upper hand during sessions. Listen, just like you're stressed out today give the person who was a bit over the top the benefit of the doubt. Well, once anyway.**** I can't believe I'm being this nice. Don't tell anybody alright!............Vennum
healedbyfaith...lol no i didnt mean it by your comment im glad you read the rest :)
and foxy youre so sweet! thanks for always making me feel welcome here :)
...my first therapy went awesome! we touched a little bit on everything and i know i still have a lot to talk about but so far so good made me feel really good to connect with this therapist she reminds me of my grandma she was very nurturing and understanding didt make me feel awkward when i started crying she actually hugged me! i know she's gonna be an awesome therapist cant wait to see her again next week :))))
Dear Kenzie, Vennum and others who read my above post...
My apologies if it came off as nasty. That wasn't my intention and I have no reason to be nasty to any of you or anyone for that matter, especially you Kenzie since you are young and reaching out for help and I commend you for that.
The mention of insanity was in relation to AA Step 2 which states, "Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity." Therefore I've always thought of alcoholic drinking and any addictive using as a form of insanity. That's all.
Best wishes to you always Kenzie.
aww thats wonderful kenzie! i am glad you found someone who makes you feel comfortable. to me that is important as well because when we have to share our secrets we want to be understood and have compassion. its even more great when their like a family member because it makes you even more comfortable. i am truly happy for you. :)
Jessjane,
Thanks so much for explaining yourself.I'm sure you realize the mental and emotional state of some who post here is fragile at best.When you explained yourself you changed from a somewhat nasty and cold person to a caring person offering an opinion from their own perspective.More opinions equals more possible solutions to problems.Stick around your opinions are always welcomed here...............Vennum
hey kenzie I hope your doing ok - i'm glad to see that you called the other post on her shit-you can't give what you don't have -she did make amends-oops now I'm doing the same thing ! Iwe all have our own program to run BUT we are here to support each other so hang on ,keep us posted .take it easy