Unfortunately, BPD is highly stigmatized and misunderstood

Mental Health Personality Disorders
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Unfortunately, BPD is highly stigmatized and misunderstood. Reading about it can be so downright traumatic. I feel that BPD has been used as sort of a scapegoat. For one, by the psychologists, mainly because they have not been successful in treating it and it makes them feel incompetent/frustrated. Secondly by 'victims'- it is much easier to blame relationship problems on your partner then to take responsibility for your own personality deficits. I feel like the 'victims' of BPDs are so outspoken, because it is so much easier to demonize the person that hurt you then to admit that maybe you have something to work on yourself. It these 'victims' empathize with the BPD, then they can no longer just blame all their problems on us. They actually have to take some responsibility.

For me, I KNOW that I am not a bad person. I have BPD, but that does NOT define me. I am COURAGEOUS because I can see my flaws and work on them.

I feel that we need to educate people about BPD so that people understand it is a real disorder. THIS DISORDER CAUSES SO MUCH SUFFERING, WE DO NOT DESERVE TO SUFFER MORE BECAUSE OF OTHER PEOPLE UNFAIRLY STIGMATIZING US. We do not deserve to have our integrity undermined; and we should not be ashamed to ask for help for fear of being demonized.

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Well said!! My mother demonized me entire life even when I said sorry I tried to make things right, I saw a psychologist when I was about 23 and all I can remember him yelling at me is "its your fault, its your fault!" I don't know who I am, I'm always sad and almost 98% of people that I come across turn their backs on me and I'm just associated negatively and with some mental disorder of the sort.

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I def love everything you said. I work everyday to recognize flaws and I am bipolar as well. I wish more people understood when I told them and not look at me like I am just CRAZY! it is hard enough to deal with the ups and down and the manic/depression. On top of that I am a cutter so people really look at me crazy when I wear a short sleeve shirt. or an ex cutter with scars!!!!!! I just really love your post!!! Thank you!