Have had a hard marriage, but it's getting worse. Just found out that my wife has been excessively communicating with a new "friend" over the past several months. She says that she is confused but will not stop the inappropriate relationship. At this point, it doesn't look good for us. I'm pretty hurt and am looking for someone to talk to just to get through this.
Hi Underdog1973, I'm sorry for what you're going through, as I know that it can't be easy. How long have things been tough in your marriage and have you ever sought couples therapy? Is there still hope to salvage your marriage? It would take two of you to make this happen. Is your wife willing to work on it with you? Sorry for all of the questions, just trying to better understand what's going on so that I can help you in any way that I can.
I’m afraid there is not much hope.Gave her the choice of him or me and she said she was not going to stop the relationship with him. I’ve got to choose.
I'm so sorry to hear that, but it seems that the best option for you is to move on. Don't think of the short-term feelings, but rather your long-term happiness. I would completely walk away from this toxic situation, because no one deserves to be treated this way. You deserve lots of love and respect, and I know that you will have that in a healthy relationship. Although to get to that healthy relationship, you have to cleanse your path of this wrong situation. I know that it can't be easy. I am here to "listen" and help you in any way that I can.
I agree with puppygoglvr this is a toxic relationship and you deserve someone who only wants to be with you. Cheating is never healthy and it will just hurt you more the longer you stay. If she doesnt want out from the other guy then pack up and get out and get on with a fresh life.