We have seen several new members come on the site who are posting in this group. Welcome!
The overwhelming question seems to be, "I am a man, who is with a women, but I am Bi, where does that leave me?"
Our answer is, coming to terms with being bisexual while committed to someone of the opposite gender can be a challenging and emotional journey. If you're a man in a "heterosexual relationship" but find yourself mourning the experience of being with another man, it's essential to navigate this complex terrain with empathy for both yourself and your partner. Here are some things to consider:
Your Feelings are Valid: Recognizing and accepting your emotions is the first step towards understanding yourself. It's okay to feel a sense of loss or longing for experiences you haven't had.
Commitment and Fidelity: If you're in a monogamous relationship, remember the commitment you made to your partner. Open and honest communication about your feelings can be essential, even if it's difficult.
Internal Struggle: Society often has set expectations for men, which can lead to internal conflicts when one's feelings don't align with these expectations. It's essential to address these emotions instead of suppressing them.
Seek Support: It can be incredibly beneficial to speak with a therapist or counselor, especially one trained in LGBTQ+ issues. They can provide a safe space to discuss your feelings and offer coping mechanisms.
Open Dialogue: If you feel comfortable, consider discussing your feelings with your partner. This might be a challenging conversation, but it's essential for maintaining trust and understanding in the relationship.
Connecting with the Community: While acting on your feelings might not be an option if you want to maintain your current relationship, connecting with the LGBTQ+ community can provide a sense of belonging and understanding. This doesn't mean you're seeking a romantic or sexual relationship, but rather understanding and camaraderie.
Remember Love and Respect: Your commitment to not cheating shows that you respect and value your relationship. It's vital to keep this at the forefront of any decisions or actions.
Personal Growth: Exploring and understanding your feelings is a part of personal growth. It might be helpful to take time to reflect on what you truly want and need in your life.
Navigating these emotions can be challenging, especially when you want to remain faithful to your partner. Prioritize open communication, personal introspection, and seeking support to help guide you through this journey.
We are so glad you are here,
-Team SG