I always have more trouble coping on the weekends because i have more time on my hands.....i keep busy but i always have thoughts still of him. I tell myself he's not worth it and to put him out of my mind.
Any encouraging words would be appreciated :)
Hey sweetie, it's likely that every so often he will creep back into your mind after all you are still in the early stages yet. Just tell yourself why you are doing this and who you are doing this for...YOU!!!
I find exercise really helps on situtions like these, or a long drive, if you do. Also sometimes taking up a brand new hobbie. Is there anything you would like to try that you haven't...maybe something that you never thought of like horse riding or something like that...it would really get your mind off him and onto something new, as it is a whole new learning thing.
Also you are probably going to laugh but I think a good old Gloria Estafan sing-along can be good for the soul too.
You will get through this hun, you are stronger than you think. And the day will come and he will pop into your head and you will think God I haven't thought about him in ages and you won't care either way.
Hope this helps, you are doing great hun.
Love to you
Moongal x
it helps alot MG! Thank you so much :)
Good, and keep talking Heather, don't be sad, be glad that you have a new fresh start.
You're doing great hun.
Love to you
MG x
i am glad for the fresh start.....it just gets lonely sometimes. I am glad that i'm finding myself again and no one is here to stand in my way! :)
i promised myself that i would'nt shed one more tear on a man who is married with a 12 year old looking wife! lol
I deserve better than being the sometime person in his life. He even made it sound good by saying i was his best friend. Should'nt he have married his best friend???
Oh well. people can decieve you and i was duped.
Ah hun, we've all allowed our hearts to run away when our heads new better. But that's all part and parcel of what makes us what we are. I think this could show you how strong you really are. I know it can be lonely, but being by yourself again can be a truly good thing I am finding.
I was tempted to text someone this evening that I had kissed many times, just a random text and then i thought no for both of our sakes I am not opening that door again. It's hard to retrain yourself out of bad habits but it feels so good when you do.
All you need to know right now is you are doing right by you. You weren't duped, you just cared very much for someone and be happy that you did and were still able to walk away and hold your head up high.
Keep it up girl, the right guy for you is just waiting.
Love to you
Moongal x
Thanks so much MG you make me feel so much better :)
I know about texting.....i have an ex who i text with and he is dying to get together with me but with no strings attached. I'm definately not going down that road again!
That would be no better than what i just came out of. These men! what will we do with them???
Definitely no way hose with him. You could say, oh sound ya, you can take me shopping and carry my bags if you want...ha ha...see if he likes that:)
No you're doing great girlie, keep it up. You're well able for them.
Love to you
Moongal x
PS "Sound" in Ireland said like that mean, that's perfect ya.
you are so awesome MG! lol I love it!
Heather, I am right there with you. Weekends can definitely be a bit tough for me as well, as it seems that my being single is under a spotlight so to speak. I will walk out the door and it's couples couples everywhere, which only pours salt into the wound. I really try to find fulfillment in every weekend now where I will go for a good long run or walk, meet friends for lunch and/or dinner, and maybe even do an evening outing. I really try to do things that will only bring light and happiness to these days and that helps a ton. When I spend too much time alone, then it gets quite tough.
Also, avoiding the texts is really the way to go. Don't feed into it. I had a guy who continually texted me for one month after we something parted ways, as if he was just wanting to keep me on the hook. Well, I finally stopped responding and he stopped texting me. The key is not to feed into it.
I know that you will only get better and better with this and happier and happier. Please keep sharing.