okay the holidays are here and mostly evil (in my opinion). i actually have family this year i am willing to spend money on for christmas. so i am making a list of everyone. (not very long, 3 people) but wait there should be four. i forgot me.
how often to we forget about ourselves when the holidays come around. that we are so busy working on giving to others (tis the holiday spirit) that we forget about ourselves.
not this year so now i have my list:
nan, mom, sweetheart, me
i have the price range $x for each.
okay so now i can spend this much on her and her, this much on my sweetheart and this much on me. divide $x by 4 and i get even amount for all. so i am going to get myself something for christmas. even if i don't feel i deserve it and i am putting it under the tree as from santa. so when i go under the tree on christmas i don't have a gift labeled to me from me.
still no clue what i am getting me. just something that makes me happy. maybe a gift card so i can shop later. shopping does bring me joy and happiness.
great idea scarlette :-) how about some pampering?
and gina, what thing could you put under that tree that you associate with health? something you'll enjoy, something that will embody it and that will remind you always! let's think of something :-)
That is such a good idea. It is true that we often forget about ourselves. Put others first because we don't feel we deserve anything! That isn't true!
Every once in a while when I know I have been doing well and maybe need a pick me up, I get something for myself. It can be something small or something like a few new clothes. (I know I am such a girl).
But we have to learn that we deserve things too. And even sometimes we need to come first :)
pampering would be a good idea for you for sure. fo rme i adore holidays but i am so broke --i cannot afford gifts for anyone cause i am barely scapring by financially by myself. sigh... i hope my family and freinds like christmas hugs!!!!!!!!!
last christmas i gave myself the gift of being ED free! i remeember christmas morning going through actual withdrwal symptoms from ED. i had the shakes even----was craving my 'high' and being nasty as hell to my loved ones. great. i swear to you i never ever want to see that chrismas video of last year as long as i live. it was soooo not me. but it is a stage i had to go through to get to the other side of recovery.
although it made last christmas a bit troublesome--but at least ill be able to enjoy the christmases to come!
gina & lostgrrl,
give yourself something that will make you feel good about yourself. i know when i feel good about me, i want to do good for me.
gina, give yourself something tangible that you can play with and/or use.