I would love to know your thoughts and experiences on signs that someone's playing games. Now that I'm back in the dating game, I am realizing that either a person's truly busy or they're playing games. I do not want to play games, it's not where I am in my life. So, how do you decipher a game player from a serious genuinely busy guy?
Thank you!
Puppy,
I'd love to believe that one day the games will stop, but I have a feeling they never do. Granted there are varying levels of game playing, and some are just plain nasty, but there's always a fight for the upper hand. I think it's just human nature, especially when two people are so well equipped for one another. I've seen many couples where one is clearly a better catch than the other, then perhaps there are no games in that situation, but for the most part, I've never met anyone who hasn't played or been played by someone. Which gets me thinking about people who settle. People that fear getting hurt, do they play it safe and fall for the "safe one"? I've heard people say, I need to find a man who loves me more than I love him. Why is that? Or men that settle for the plain janes of the world, submissive, easy, boring partners. I don't get it. If you're going to spend forever with someone, forever sounds pretty **** long if it's going to be boring. I need a challenge, someone to challenge me constantly, something to look forward to. Something that makes me tick. And as far as the busy thing goes, it's relative. If they want to make the time they will. It's a matter of priorities, everyone is busy.
Wow July, that's all such amazing insight. I love it! You're right, whether we like to admit it or not, maybe there's a bit of game playing that goes on regardless. And, I love your point about wanting the upper-hand, it's really so true. Doesn't it feel better to be in that position in the early stages of dating after all?
And, I've been told time and time again from various friends about being with a man who loves me more than I love him [in the beginning] because they say that women are maternal so their feelings will catch-up. I actually believed this for a while and would go for guys who really were way more into me than I was into them, but it wouldn't work out because my feelings wouldn't catch-up. I need to be head over heels in order to move forward, otherwise it's not worth my time or his.
You're right, we're all busy. I'm super busy with my businesses, family and friends, but for the right person I will always make time.
Thanks again so much for your brilliant insight! You're the best!
Hey Puppy,
Well there are games and there are games. Now if there's "tom-foolery" like not texting/calling for 3 days. Immature git and say bye bye, cos he doesn't know women.
And then there's the "players" be wary.
But I think when it comes to a real relationship where people are sure of themselves, it's not about game playing but more honesty, where either can say "this is where I am" and are so intune with themselves that they are not afraid of their feelings or admitting to the other person who they are and what they are about.
I hope you understand this post, it may seem a little gobledee-guck! :P
Love to you
Moongal x
Moongal, I always understand you and your insight, as it's always so on point and fantastic. I totally agree with you, it's about being on the same page....that's really the bottom line. Once you're on the same page, hopefully games are out the door.
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