What shall I do at this point shall I go stay with him or shall I take divorce is my question from all of you…
In Short he never gave me any emotional support in two years, he scolded me on phone when I was into labor pain, I can never call and tell him that I m feeling upset for anything he says it irritates him, I can’t cry in front of him he hates it, he never called me in one last year on his own if I called him and it goes to miss call too he never calls back to check the reason for my call…he never gave me any financial support, from the time I came here he gave me some money but on and off and not fixed and never enough..he quits job for any reason like in two years he has quit his job three times and every time he takes a break of at least two to three months..this is same even after we having a baby and me not going for job..I feel he is pushing me into trouble purposely, this time he even raised his hand to hit me but others stopped him. He is HIV Poz his family supports always him. Nobody else goes for work like his sister who is married but lives in her mother’s house along with her daughter she goes to her in laws place once in a year. my hubby’s brother is not working anywhere sitting in home since last six years…
I really want to stay with him from my heart but is it worth . will things will change like he will have some feelings for me or m i putting my self in more trouble leaving him to hurt me for the rest of the life...
You didn't list any reason to stay other that your heart wants you to. It is ok to love somebody, but also realize they are not a person that is good for you. If he is bringing down in life more than he is supportive and bringing you up, then you may have your answer. If he is willing to work with you to save he marriage, that is something to consider.
Thanks for replying Jenn__Actually there is no other reason i feel.. he is a good guy i enjoy his company we had good chemistry but he supports his family more and he pushes me in trouble with his family..we have a daughter too but he never ask much about her..he never tries to know what new she is doing..if i send him a pic of baby he do not reply or even comment on it...in whole i feel that he loves his family too much which includes only his mum sister , sister kid.. me and my daughter is no where in picture...
Do you live together at all? If the child isn't missing out on much more if you divorce.. then you may be better to find happiness on your own or maybe with another.
We are not together from last one year now since i came here for my delivery but i was looking forward to go stay with him in a couple of months... I was learning different kind of cooking, planning lots of things.. all that hurts now so much...my daughter is just going to be 6 months in few days so she doesn't understand anything... i feel my hubby is not attached to her as well he does not called and asked me in last six months anything about the baby by which i can feel that he is curious or missing the baby..but one thing confuses me last time when he came here he was crying looking at the baby he says he can't control after seeing her. as i told u he is Poz..So now there are lots of things which are creating confusion in my mind...
What is Poz? Is there anything he can do for you before you make a decision to move in with him? It is of course much harder to separate once you start living together. If you have serious doubts, I would seriously consider waiting till he makes some changes that make you feel sure of the relationship, or consider moving on. You baby will be watching your relationship and what you tolerate. What do you want your baby growing up to see as "normal". Keep that in mind. I am all about working hard on a marriage or relationship because their are kids, but not if what they see is unhealthy role models for their own relationships.