I am going through changes in my life with 2 of my daughters being grown. One is moving out this week. The other one probably will be moving out soon. That will leaves our youngest daughter, my husband and me here. But I find these days I am alone alot and lonely. Just haven't figured out yet what to do with myself. I have cried alot lately. I know this will pass eventually. It is just hard going through it now. Now I am alone alot in this big ole house that use to be full of kids.
Girl friend. I know exactly what you are going through. I'm going through the same thing. Whew what a blow. The feeling of not being needed hurts. Yeap, we need to figure out what to do with our time. I'm divorced and 45 years old. No husband no man in my life. So I'm thinking maybe its time for me to find one. Or maybe I need to find out who I am. Very confusing, very lonely. I have several friends that is going through the same thing. God only knows, so I pray he gives me signs of what direction I will go in. Stay strong and lets keep posting, perhaps someone who is going through the empty nest syndrome will post and give us some answers.
I am 49. I am also experiencing symptoms of going through the change that women go through. So it's a double whammy here. Let's just say that sometimes the best thing I can do is just go to my bedroom or bathroom for a bit and be quiet. :-) I trust God and know that He will help me and with Him I am never truly alone. There is another post here where I posted about empty nest syndrome last year - http://www.supportgroups.com/discussions/support-groups-discussions/pare... . My middle daughter, she is 19 now, moved back home for the summer this year after a year in college. She is the one that is moving out again. Every since she has been home my emotions have been all over the place. Recently I am crying alot again. She came back home more independent and changed from the daughter that left for college last fall. I have been trying to adjust to the new person she is all summer but with her you never know what is going on. She doesn't talk to me nor her dad or sisters much anymore. It's like home has been somewhere for her to put her clothes and stuff until she decided where she was going next. So now she is moving out with her 29 year old cousin who is a guy. I don't like it but as she tells me she is grown and can do what she wants. She will be going back to college in August just at a different one from last year. As much as I hate to see her leave it will be a relief. Life for me has been a whirlwind of emotions since she has been here. She has shut me out. That is what hurts the most because before she left for college last year we were always so very close. All I pretty much say to her is I love her and am here. She doesn't have time to talk anymore like we use to nor seems to want to. So I love her enough to let her go - again. I don't like the way our relationship has changed but it takes two. I have done all I can for now. So I am hanging in there a day at a time and praying.
I am 56 years old, and really trying to figure out my life now. All my children our grown and living their lives, and I feel like I'm losing my place in theirs. I am also starting to experience some depression. For a long time my faith kept me uplifted, now even that seems to be not sustaining me anymore. I just need someone to talk to. There are a lot of different things going on in my life, and they are really weighing me down. I am a Christian. I love the Lord, but I feel I have even let Him down. I just need to communicate with some others that might be having similar experiences.
Hi Gong through, Welcome to SupportGroups.com . I understand you needing someone to talk to. Everyone here at home is busy living their lives. I get left with time on my hand but I am trying to learn to enjoy this new found freedom of having most of my kids grown and not needing me as much. I, too, am a Christian and love the Lord. Like you, for a long time my faith kept me uplifted but it doesn’t seem to be working right now. I have heard “if you feel distant from God then who moved? You moved.” I am working on improving my relationship with God. I feel like I need a good housecleaning inside. Keep sharing with us. Keep taking it a day at a time. Keep praying. I will pray also. ((((hugs))))
loniless is my bane of existence. i am 49, divorced for 10 years, no children. i was seeing someone but it ended in april and i was very unhappy, but he could not tolerate a very bizarre bladder disease i have.
now i am suspended. i miss my coworkers. i am suspended with pay, until my manager figures out how to fire me. she can do it, but she has to go through a process with my union. i may or may not go back to work.
i spent the whole day alone. reading. cleaning my wonderful house, i will probably lose without a job. i am besides myself. i wish i could make other people feel better. i need to talk and to hear other peoples problems so i am not so insulated.
i have friends who went through the empty nest syndrome. once you get used to just getting up and doing what you want when you want, you are going to love it.
just you need a job to be able to go anywhere these days what with the price of gas and whatnot.
i am sorry you feel distant from your children right now. these things are cyclical. i believe that if you were once close, if you give them space, they will come back to you better and closer than ever with a little maturity