I'm actually not even sure which group to join, because I have this problem that I am too sensitive and insecure. I seem to pick up on things that my partner does and then I start believing that she doesn't really love me, that maybe she is just living with me for convenience. I would then become kind of detached and emotional. In my opinion, I'm not unreasonable in judging her actions and coming up with the conclusion that she doesn't really love me, but when things are going well, I can see that she does love me. The problem is that I pick up on stuff so easily and so regularly that it causes big problems for us - sometimes like twice a week, we have a 'fight'. I'm also jealous, but I try not to show it and I'm quite possessive and I don't like her spending time away from me when she is not at work. What is wrong with me and how do I fix it?
I also have a bit of a drinking problem in that when I drink I get more sensitive. I stopped drinking for long periods and it's something I think I can deal with. I'm not drinking at the moment, but being 'sensitive' is the big problem.
Howdy! I'd like to suggest that you may be highly sensitive - check out the books written by Dr. Elaine Aron about the Highly Sensitive Person. I identify with at least 50% of the HSP profile which is laid out in her books. The book that has been most helpful to me personally is the Survival Guide for the Highly Sensitive Person, also by Dr. Elaine Aron.
Before you "waste your time", go to www.hsperson.com and look over the self-test. This will either be an eye-opener for you, or confirm to you that you're not highly sensitive - on or the other.
After you explore yourself for a while (a few months, a year, longer...), you'll probably develop a more grounded reference point on which interpret the world around you more clearly and less negatively. Your self-esteem will go up (read The Undervalued Self by Dr. Elaine Aron) which will make you less traumatized, confused, and misguided by the rest of your world - including your relationships, work, etc.
I hope these leads work for you and good luck! They worked and are working for me.
Thank you for your response, Brumby. I have only just read the first page of the link you sent me and I can already identify with what Dr Aron is saying. Thanks for pointing me in that direction.