What does it mean when you are several months into a relationship and the man still wants to date other women? Is he keeping his options open or is he just not that into you?
Several friends have been going through this time and time and time again, they think that the relationship is heading towards a serious monogamous relationship and then the guy drops the bomb that he's still dating other people. This is all totally foreign to me because I've never dated more than one person at a time, but is this
the norm and how do you feel about it?
First of all, you need to ask yourself, do I really love this person or is this just someone to have fun with and keep each other company. If it's just a person that you enjoy having as a bud then it's all good, but if you think even for a minute that you are in love or even may be falling in love then my advise to you is to get out of this relationship before you fall deeper in love and wind up hurt BIG TIME! People look for easy exit stragies when they're not satisfied with the relationship that they already have. Obviously, if you love the person that you're with then the last thing in the world you want is to see the person dating someone else. Think about it, that person has every advantage. That person is simply keeping the door open. This way he doesn't have to do the "dirty deed" and tell you how he really feels. This way everything might just go away. This way the other party doesn't have to take any responsibility if you get your heart broken. What I think someone should do in that situation is tell the other person, hey look, I'm sorry but I'm simply not into these type of relationships where someone is dating me while they're dating others too. If this is what you're looking for then I think that we should stop seeing each other altogether. I think that's in my best interest right now since I prefer 1 on 1 relationships. Whatever you do DO NOT agree to just be friends. If he calls you saying that he just wants to be just friends just tell him that you just don't have time right now. Good Luck!!
Unikte.1022, thank you so much for your wonderful words of wisdom. I totally agree with you on all fronts. I am a traditional girl who lives in a very untraditional world, where dating multiple people at once is ok. I know and understand that it works for some people but it really just doesn't work for me. Some of my girlfriends are really battling with this same issue, they are trying to be more open minded because they feel that this is what they have to settle for. I for one am standing up for my values and will not compromise who I am as a person. Thank you again so very much!
I agree and are in the midst of experiencing the same issue. I know me I am a 1 on 1 person with traditional values. Therefore mixing it up with other women as he plays the field is not appealing to me physically, mentally nor emotionally. He can have at it. I am an outstanding women who deserves to be loved singularly and so should the rest of us. Don't settle for that mess it causes heartache and confusion. Thank you all for the constructive advice...good stuff.