When to break-up with a friend

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I didn't quit know where to post regarding friendship, so this seemed like the best fit, since a lot of friendships can tend to be like relationships.

I met this girl in December at a party and we became fast friends. She started offering instant help with my businesses, a bit aggressively which made me a bit nervous and suspicious. Though, she came across quite genuine, so I went along with it until she made a comment about a prospective investor [to whom she made an introduction for the purpose and benefit of my business]; "my sleeping with him could benefit both of us financially". That had me running for the hills, as I have always prided myself on being totally and completely ethical when it comes to business. So, I cut her off at the pass and cancelled a meeting with the excuse that I was no longer seeking investment. That was the start of many red flags. Each and every time we would go out with my friends, she would create and stir up drama unnecessarily. As well, she would always show up in a bad mood, which I realized was her way of getting attention from everyone.

Well, long story short, I just heard from one of my close friends, who had dinner with 5 of my other friends, that none of them like her, they all think she's bad news, and want nothing to do with her. Though, she is now intertwined with several other friends, which makes it difficult to cut her out of my life. I am trying to do this in a very non-dramatic and diplomatic way, as I know that I will run into her time and time again. So, how do you phase someone out when they continually text and call you [with drama], as well are intermingled in your social circle?

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I would say just try to ignore her and spend as little time as possible with her.

Your other friends don't like her, and there is likely a reason.

Be friendly but very superficial (you know, like if you HAVE to be around her, keep it LIGHT..."hi how are you doing oh i'm fine nice weather isnt it" etc). That way if she complains about you she will look like the one who is being an ***.

Eventually she will probably lose interest in you and move on to someone else.

Best of luck!

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Thanks so much for the fantastic advice! That will be my plan of action; a phase out. I really like to treat others the way that I like to be treated, but in this case I really can't afford any drama in my life; therefore, I have to selfishly phase her out slowly but surely.

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treat aquaintances with respect friens with disdain it works well

and besides if she is an endangered animal its only fair to return it to the wilds

as always loving vibes and positive thougths

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That is so incredibly well put Domestic! Again, your words of wisdom are absolutely brilliant and provide much needed guidance, which I appreciate beyond words. Thank you!