I've been dating a man for 1yr 9 mo who's 47, never been married or had kids. He's had relationships that have involved drugs and alcohol for many years and he claims he's never had a relationship like this. That tells me he was living in la la land for many years and has now woken up to a real life. I've been married 2 times but have never felt this deep for anyone in my entire life, I'm 41. This relationship has been off the wall due to me drinking and driving and crashing my car with him being injured a year ago. He's also been to jail before that happened for 2 recent dui's and I was the only one that visited him in jail. He still goes to treatment but still drinks. I stopped drinking completely a year ago. I am on home arrest now for 3 months at my parents. I used to make the effort to see him when he couldn't drive. Now he has his ILL and makes me the last on his list. He likes to drink and socialize with everyone for long periods of time, more than spending time with me. We don't have mutual friends, so he visits many different people by himself. When I was staying with him he would constantly talk with people next door while I sat in the trailer. I don't know these people well and don't have the common factors of smoking or drinking. I was also very busy with school and just wanted a few hours with him and that seemed difficult for him to handle. He seems restless when he's with me also. He claims he loves me and anticipates spending the rest of his life with me but has not officially commited to me. He thinks I'm feeling sorry for myself but I feel like we live 2 different lives and don't know what to do. I've explained my feelings to him but he just says men and women think differently.
I would just say that He's not that commited to you..... Plain and simple, based on what you are explaining.