My boyfriend is moving in with me soon, he is underweight due to stomach issues and i am morbidly obese with an eating disorder. He understands that I need get healthy, which means losing weight and getting in shape.On the other hand he needs to gain weight. He frequently buys a dozens of doughnuts, which i usually end up eating 6 to 8 of!!!!Today he bought a dozen doughnuts, a large pizza, and 10 wings!!! I ate way too much and totally wanted to purge, but i couldn't because my boyfriends friend was over. I feel totally disgusting right now!!!
My goodness that sounds like torture.
I've been in situations where i"ve eaten waaay more than I intended.. merely out of the fact that I couldn't stop myself, and then had no ability to purge!
It sucks. It feels horrible.
I'm not sure what other support I can lend, other than an understanding of those feelings.
I knowexactly how you feel!
I am desperate to lose weight and am the only one dieting in the house so there is always junk food around, I find leaving the room and finding a distraction when others are eating is good and eating at different times to every one else.
Sometimes I just stock up on healthy foods and end up binge eating the healthy foods which although I still feel disgusted in my self for eating I don't feel as bad as if I ate all the bread and chocolate ect
Have you tried have a low cal fizzy drink whilst the other are eating? That might help take some of the temptation away and still give you the sugar you crave from the drink
Hang in there
Olivia x
Just thinking off the top of my head after reading your post. Why does your boyfriend have to buy so much junk food to gain weight? Obviously, having all this junk food easily at hand isn't doing you any favors. There are weight gain supplements and powders your boyfriend can use, plus he can consume larger amounts of healthier types of foods that will help his weight gain. Or,he should drive out somewhere to do his bad eating. Go to a drive thru and eat what he wants and not bring it home in front of you. Just a thought on my part, since you both have eating issues, you have to find some kind of compromise that works both ways.
Hi....I totally agree with achilles45. Your bf doesn't need to eat junk to put on weight. That's such a wrong notion. Maybe the two of u can join a gym together. U can work to lose, and he to gain. The dieticians there can help u. He needs to eat more protein....he can get that from supplements, and by eating healthy. So he doesn't really need to stock up on fried foods and sugary stuff. I know u must've heard this before but it's really mind over matter. Distract yourself, make a plan, set goals, strive to achieve them.....keep a weight loss diary...track your progress. Don't feel like u need to give up everything. Maybe u can give yourself a small 'reward' when u achieve a particular goal. Don't look at it as a punishment, you'll never get there that way. It should just be a way of life. So don't ban anything for yourself, just learn to eat in smaller quantities. I totally get the binge part, but there's usually an emotional trigger for it. Identify yours and treat it. And be firm with your boyfriend about what he brings home. Good luck and I wish u the best. God bless.
Ditto: So much good advice.
I think it is amazing that you logged on to this site to share, rather than purge. Great steps towards Recovery : )
I can really relate with you. My friends do the same thing and I am also morbidly obese and trying to get healthy but my friends just junk food in the house and I end up binging and most of the time I can purge so I end up feeling gross or disgusted with myself. Try asking your boyfriend not to bring the food back to the house or get your own healthy food you know your not going to binge on.
I find it unfair that your bf chose those foods instead of setting a good example. He needs to bulk up with protein, good fats like avocado, tuna, etc. do you like sushi? I would suggest going to sushi and try some raw fish. It helps with the mood as well. Invite that ******* to go on a walk with you and have him
Take some multivitamins, whey protein or whatever he would like. For you, carry around some nuts and munch on those when you're hungry like a squirrel. :) Go for the rabbit meal for a while and load up
On salads at Cosco. Salads help you loose weight fast and so does getting in 30-an hour of cardio exercise whatever that may be. Jump rope is fun, roller skating/rollerblading is fun, snowboarding in the winter, swimming -or- surfing in the summer, etc. I'd try to suggest a new sport you both can take up and enjoy with each other. It'll bring a new level of intimacy, too in
Your relationship! :)
I have a similar problem, It's so hard to eat healthy when no one else around you is even trying. I also know that saying hey baby you mind eating that stuff some where else doesn't always work, I try to leave the room when people are eating trigger foods but it doesn't always work. Hopefully you guys can come to some kind of agreement maybe even just limit the amount of sweets brought in the house might help. GOOD LUCK