Hello everyone, I came to this support group to work through my issues of loneliness. Despite being in college, I still feel alone at times. I have a great family and friends who provide an excellent sounding board when I need. I don't know if it has to do with my age, or how I look. I just can't seem to understand why I can't have quality relationships with people. It's like this darkness in the pit of my stomach, one that I hope won't last too much longer. If anyone has insight, I would appreciate it
palecowboy its great that you have supportive family around you. i know how it is going away to college and not knowing anyone, it can be overwhelming. have you found friends there that you can spend time with or have similar interests? the great thing about college is that there are so many activities that you can look into to meet people and make friends. it sounds like there might be more to what is happening, and maybe talking to a therapist, if thats an option, can help. some colleges have a medical center and may offer that for help. keep writing and letting me know how you are doing.
Hi palecowboy... welcome...I actually just joined as well and saw your post I understand that everyone is busy, but you need to be able to express yourself/talk to someone...find someone.. friend,family or therapist... is is important even if it seem awkward, uncomfortable etc.. you need to honor yourself.. what you resist.. will persist... coming here is a great start as well... try to take time for yourself, choose healthy activities.. keep away from the partying if you can, if you do that.. it is a rollercoaster until you can work on this more and hone in n what might be causing these feeling...
best keep us posted. Leslie S
Hi James, welcome to the site :)
Have you tried joining local groups that interest you? Ie..if you're an avid reader, a book club would be great. If you enjoy working out, join a gym - thats a great way to meet people who have at least one thing in common with you (fitness/health)..things such as those.
Do you have any social anxiety issues?
Hey Palecowboy,
I can identify with the darkness in your gut. I used to call it my black hole, seemed it ate at me and I was never comfortable with loneliness or with people, I went to anything and everything to make it go away, turned out it was a God-sized hole for me. Now He is my best friend and I am rarely lonely and when I am I tell Him, which means I am not alone, get it?
So glad to hear you don't party, that destroyed a year of college for me, I did the whole fraternity party scene and almost killed myself trying to keep up(turned out I was an alkie)Thanks for being there for all of us and I pray that the Lord remove that darkness and that He fills it with light instead!
Lilac- I am currently involved with a support group called "Circle of Friends" who are only open 3 days a week. A wonderful group of people that know my needs. I just wish for a stronger relationship with them, though. Thanks for the suggestions.
Well there you go James you have alot of friends here to talk about anything you'd like & that way you wont feel too alone. Is wise that you have another support system in your area "Circle of Friends". One does out grow the party scene, I understand that one & sometimes it can be interesting to watch the younger ones do silly things as long as you dont have to do any damage patrol. What kind of hobbies do you have?
I'm always interested in what others read! Who are your favourite authors/books?
I am reading a Joseph Wambaugh!!! Its called Hollywood Hills...have you read it?