Worried and Stressed

This is my first post on the board so I will give some back ground.

I was first diagnosed when I was 20 years-old with Stage III. I had ABVD and it appeared to be in complete remission. This was December 2005.

My cancer recurred in January 2007 where I was treated with two types of salvage chemo (first method failed and nodes grew) followed by high dose chemo and a stem cell transplant. I was out of the iso ward by May of 2007.

I returned to law school where I just graduated in May and passed the MA and NY bar. Great. Only there are no jobs out there, so I am currently unemployed, with loans adding up that private banks make you struggle to defer.

These pressures and stresses add up. Whenever I get this worry I go toward my number one worry - my cancer recurring again. I think about it all the time the past week or two. I feel my neck constantly looking for lymphnodes. I have a node that I have felt since my transplant that I know to look for...then I have felt one or maybe even two on the opposite side of my neck before prior to scans, and they have come back clean. Only problem is that I never remember where that one is and in my searching I have found one and possibly another on that side of my neck and then one under the chin. They are very tiny, probably smaller than a pea, and I am sure if I'd never had lymphoma I would be thinking nothing of it. Just, the way my life has been going with all these negatives I can't help but dwell on this.

I am just looking for anyone that has dealt with this type of thing before. What do you do to get your mind off of this stuff? I can only tell myself I am healthy and never going to have the disease again so many times. It really isn't working anymore...

I also go to NYPH and they keep switching up doctors on me and the latest doctor isn't a fan of PET scans. His opinion is 3 years out of transplant, that the risk of recurrence is low and there is more concern (for him) of the side-effects of the radiation from PET scans that I don't need them and I should just look out for symptoms. Great - perfect thing for me to do. I probably touch the nodes I feel on my neck 45-50 times per hour...and I stare at a spot on my hand where both times I have been sick I've gotten this dry skin circle. It's not there now, but I keep picturing it forming, like I can see it forming and it's not itchy, but when I stare at it, it gets itchy in that area.

I don't know what to do. I have never been this bad. I also was never this worried before, or this bored, or had this little to do. At least when I was still in school with nothing to do, my loans were deferred and playing video games was fun. I never even have the energy to turn on my xbox right now. I feel so depressed. I also almost feel I am going to worry the disease back.

Please if you ever get down like this, what do you do? Does seeing a therapist help? Do they know what you went/are going through? If anyone is in the Greater Boston Area, are there therapists that focus in cancer survivors?

You are going to be fine and I will support you. Congratulations on passing the bar exam, you rock. I hope this is nothing to worry about but try and see if your insurance will give you another Doctor who is seasoned in cancer and research. If not take a pad with questions and concerns you would like answered. If he or she is willing they will take their time and offer help. Knowing your history they should help. You can try finding a therapist by computer, just type in the area you live and therapist(Greater Boston Area Therapist For cancer Survivors) There should also be a free medical line that could pull some up as well. Try not to worry as much being that this will only make you weak and ill. try and do something positive to get you along. You could try to volunteer at a school and shape the young minds in grade school. They would like to ask questions and after a day of that you will have forgotten alot. I just hope that all is well and nothing comes of it. If you need me I am here to lend a heart.