Yesterday was 6 month mark from Dday. My councilor said at 6 months about 50% recovery is normal. Then 75% at 1 year with 100% at the 2 year mark, mostly due to anniversaries of things. I have not posted much lately but have poked in and read. I have gone through a phase where looking in here every day was more negative for me because I see the daily deluge of newly hurt people and it would make me obsess on the past...
I can say without equivocation that I feel better every month. There are day's when i get completely immobilized, but they are happening fewer. I think about the affair still multiple times a day, but usually i can stop the lingering on them for as long; and it is certainly (a little) less painful than before.
It is helpful the MW is very very remorseful, has had absolutely no contact with OM, and we have been an open book with activities, thoughts and feelings. We have the mantra of saying that we just have to keep talking about it, which allows us to be honest regardless of how we might "think" how the other person will receive the message. This has been helpful to me having a better understanding of her perspective and vice-versa. Also the only reason it hurts so bad is because I love her so much and that is proof enough to have faith that enduring this will result in a more fulfilling life together.