I spent the whole weekend harboring resentment for several people who I love because they were somehow contributing to my poor mental health. Whether I just wanted them to pay more attention to me, read my mind and offer me help, or reach out just asking to see me, I was seething thinking of how mistreated I am and filled with shame because I felt that I don’t deserve any better either. I’ve come out of the funk now but this has been a pattern for me. When it gets really bad, I’m so eager to assign blame – to others and to myself. I don’t want to keep this up; I wanna take charge of my feelings and stay responsible for how I cope and how I ask for help from others. Any advice for getting out of the blame loop??
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I try to remind myself that even though it is lovely to blame others, it doesn’t do me any good, like literally it doesn’t fix anything. Take some time to process how you are feeling and that then work through those feelings.
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