Well its 1:30pm. My wife has left for work and i am all alone. I must keep myself busy. If i get bored or lonely im in trouble. Please pray for me.
Why would you be in trouble if you're bored or lonely?
Moongal x
Because when i get bored or lonely i act out sexually.
Are you getting help for this? Does your wife know about this issue?
Right now this online support group is my only help. Even though i havent told my wife, i think she knows.
Jay,
Why don't you find some hobbies or activies? If you are aware of what will happen when you are bored or lonely, be proactive. Do you work? Perhaps get together with some friends and play a sport, or go somewhere, volunteer? There are plenty of things to do to fill your time in a positive manner. Chatting on here is good too! Good luck!
xo, July
I do have a job, but you`re right i do need a hobby or something. Thanks for the tip! : )
Hey Jay,
Are you talking about sex addiction issue or something else? If it is sex addiction you really need help you can't fight this alone and the sooner the better.
If you're wife does knoow and is not communicating it to you, believe me it is hurting her so much inside.
Please seek help
Love to you
Moongal x
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Hi Jay, I totally agree with July, the best way to keep yourself occupied when you're on your own is in a healthy way and that's to find a hobbies for yourself. Look for something that really interests and intrigues you. As well, have you thought of seeking counseling? This group is here to help you in any way that we can, but you may also try counseling as an additional outlet to discuss this issue. Please keep sharing with us.
Jay,
Have you checked out an SAA or SLA meeting? There are many men who feel hopeless and powerless over their sex addictions. The 12 steps originally introduced for alcoholism have been applied to many other types of addictions, including sex. It might be worth looking up a local meeting -- if for nothing else, to have an opportunity to speak with and meet other men who are going through the exact same thing as you. You are not alone.
Sex Addicts Anonymous:
http://saa-recovery.org/
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous:
http://www.slaafws.org/
Big Mike
Thank you all for your comments they mean so much to me. I have considered joining SA or SAA. You guys are helping alot. Thank you again.
Jay, please keep sharing with you, we're here for you.
Jay,
I can relate to what you are going through, in a different sense maybe. Sometimes, in order to feel free from stress and to feel loved... maybe you could talk more about how it makes you feel and try to find something else that simulates that feeling. Try to explore new things, to include your spouse. She may be more understanding than you think. We all have our certain things that pleasure us. Don't feel guilt about your pleasure, but we all have to maintain how much we indulge.
Good Luck and Support is here. Keep writing... just share your thoughts.
Well im having a really hard time tonight. Its amazing how easy it is to find porn on the internet. Trying to stay away from those XXX sites.
Everywhere you look, there is sex in the world. That is what keeps our economy alive, I think. Lol... Anyway, temptation is out there, so you can't look to escape it as being the answer. You have to practice self-control. Looks like you used the net to find this Support Line. That's a giant step in the right direction. Look for positive things to surround you, and keep talking...
I have been spending alot of time on here. Im so glad yall are here. : )
Dont know if i will make it through the night. Im so weak right now and the devil knows it.
Dont give up, stay busy. Keep writing to us.
Im trying. Hormones suck by the way. They make you wanna do very disgusting things.
Try to focus on toward where you really want to be in life and what you want to allow to control you. I feel the more you channel your thoughts toward the negative, the more increased sense of needing that pleasure. Sexual drive I believe, for me, starts in my brain. I control whether it goes any further. Try to focus less on what you don't want to do, and create a new pleasure to fill that need.