I’m feeling really guilty and ashamed because I was doing really good for a few months with my incest urges , and sex urges .
Three weeks ago I relapsed back into my urges of incest phone sex and incest porn.
Tonight I can’t control my urges, I miss being sexually touched by my mom and can’t stop thinking of my mom while I’m doing sexually things to my self.
I feel ashamed I know this is wrong but can’t stop these urges.
think about the positive, How long did you go while controlling your urges? It sounds like it was a good set of time. Every addict will have issues with self control and relapse. It just means you have to work harder and keep up your hard work. You can do it.
You had a bad night . Tomorrow is a new day . Try again
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Step back, breathe and try again.
im sorry
I agree with the positive words already offered. You will get better with time. You must also keep in mind that you are not perfect, so a setback IS NOT an indication that you aren’t making progress. Give yourself grace. I know it may appear as if this will never end, but that isn’t true. How did you get through the months without the urges? What made that possible? Could you examine your actions that led to that success and repeat? Instead of judging yourself, could you experiment with spending time considering how wonderful it felt during those “few months?” This could motivate you to keep finding creative ways to navigate such thoughts. You have within you what it takes to strengthen your self-regulation. Allow yourself time to get there since that journey will not happen over night. Be Well!
It was another hard day today , seems like every time I tried to control my urges I took 2 steps buck 
that is often our battle, we have to keep moving forward as best as we can.
Just don’t give up.
That’s honestly where I’m at tonight ,another bad night of urges and I’m trying to stop but can’t
I know it can be very difficult to giving in to urges. Just don’t give up. Don’t beat yourself up too hard. Just restart and please continue coming here. 