She came over on Monday because she had car trouble. Her dad was able to fix her car. While she was here she got on my computer. She answered an email about a job. The reason I know this is because she didn't close out the page she was viewing her email on. I got on yesterday morning and discovered it. Well, I read about the job. It is for a female server for an adults swingers party. She said she was interested in the job. I must admit to being upset at reading this especially first thing in the morning. I am trying to be open minded here but don't like that she may be doing this. I mentioned it to my husband last night. He is not happy about it. There is really nothing we can do about it. She is 19, living on her own and can do what she wants.
Maybe she left the page up on purpose?.. Because she wanted you and your husband to know about it but didn't know how to tell you and she wants your advice. Im not a parent but I'm 19 also and thats something i would do if i wanted my parents to know something. I'd talk to her about it. I hope you feel like my advice isn't qualified because im only a teenager. Im here to help and to get help and i hope this helps you! Good luck!
Hey Amanda, I most definitely do think your answer is qualified. ((((hugs)))) My middle daughter is 19 also. I haven't had a chance to speak to her about it yet. I haven't seen nor heard from her since Monday night. I discovered this yesterday morning. How do you feel about doing something like what she is agreeing to? She can make $200 in five hours. The person answering her said there would be no one touching her in anyway. She was also told she could possibly make an extra $200-$250 in tips during this time. I think it would be a one time thing. Not something permanent but I don't know.
What would she be doing as a 'server'? like, waitressing? im kind of confused about the details of the job. lol.. if shes like waitressing and theres nothing nasty going on then i think it'd be okay.. that much money in that short amount of time is alot!! If i did it it would definately be just for a short amount of time to save up for something. Maybe thats why shes doing it? Maybe shes just saving up for a new car or computer or something like that and its an easy way to make money fast?
Hey Amanda, I think it is just serving beverages. She needs money for her college books and her car payment and insurance for next month. My husband has the loan for her car in his name as well as the insurance. She pays it to us each month. I told her not to pay us for the months of August and September so she could use that money to pay for her books instead. I believe this is why she is thinking about doing this. But she doesn't know that I know anything about it. I haven't said anything to her about it. Like I said, she used my computer Monday night when she was visiting and forgot to close out the email. I just happened to see it the next morning when I went to get on my computer.
Since she doesn't have to pay you for September and August maybe she wont take the job?.. Goodluck! Everything will turn out fine i know it! :) Have a great day!!!
Thanks Amanda, I saw her last night at a family dinner. I didn't say anything to her about this. I may not say anything. What do you think? Should I tell her I know or not? Have a great weekend! ((((hugs))))
I think you should bring it up subtly (sp?).. and see if she says anything.. like say.. "are you thinking about working anywhere?" any see where it goes from there!! I hope everything goes well!! If shes anything like you I know she's a GREAT person!!!
I might do that Amanda, I am still thinking on it. I have seen her more this week than in a while. Things are a little better between us. She may be coming over again today. We are having my youngest daughter's (her sister)17th birthday party this weekend. My youngest daughter turned 17 on September 1st. If I do talk to my middle daughter about it, it won't be today. I want everyone to have fun today.