This is the first time I ever looked for help in my drinking. I don't know how much of a problem I have. I do know that I'm a binge drinker. When I do drink I usually do not stop until I pass out or everyone else does. Sometimes even then I'll even have a night cap. I do have black outs often, in fact most of the time I drink I black out. I do not drink every day, I drink maybe once a month or every other month. I guess I really don't know what to except out of this. I will just have to wait and see what happens. Thanks for looking at this and any advice you can give.
Hi RRooster, Welcome to SupportGroups.com . Only you can decide that you have a problem and are an alcoholic. This is a link for a couple of alcohol screening quizzes http://www.addictioninfo.org/articles/3685/1/Two-Alcohol-Screening-Quizz... . You might also think about going to an AA http://www.aa.org/ meeting. If you choose to go, you don't have to say anything, you can just listen. There is also a list of non 12 step programs here http://alcohol.supportgroups.com/sg/alcohol/non-12-step-programs if you are interested in those. There is help available if you want it. Please keep coming and letting us know how you are doing. We are here for you. ((((hugs))))
Dear RR. When my Daddy died in 2004, I started having a "night-cap," every single night, just so I could go to sleep. I had to ask myself the same question. Did I or didn't I, have a problem? Well, the very fact that I was questioning revealed, that I did have a BIG problem. Do you believe in God? I came to a place where, I got on my knees, and asked Him to deliver me, from that demon. He did! I haven't had a drink since that day, and I don't miss it at all. Another funny thing happened, I never suffered with-drawal symptoms either. I have to give God the glory and praise. I could not have done it without HIM! Now, I am seeking deliverance, from the "Anoreia" demon, fighting me right now. I'm not sure, about this one though? Somehow, it's different! Much harder to give up!
We all have demons! A secret part of us, that is impossible, to share with family and friends. I would have never admitted to anyone, that I had a "drinking problem." I didn't want to face it myself. But, I got past it, and I am now fighting, with every fiber in my body, to be delivered from this one. The support you will recieve from this group, will help you find ways to deliver yourself. We can't do it alone, we need someone in our corner to understand, just how hard things can be. I hope you find the strength and courage you need. You are one step closer to healing.
Love and prayers, SS.
Dear RRooster,
What a dilemma.
I hate to be the one to break the news to you... but that's not normal drinking. However, the good news is that you can find a way of living that is better than anything you've ever known. Anyway, that's been my experience.
Although, I've got to admit that the last thing I wanted to do was to give up the only way of life that had ever worked for me - drinking. Drinking for the good times, the bad times, whenever I was bored, and when I needed to go to sleep, etc. The list of reasons (all good reasons) went on and on. I always had plenty of good reasons and whatever, why did I need any reason at all. It was my right.
Therefore, I had to wait until I crashed and burned to figure it out.
Try Alcoholics Anonymous. Look it up on the internet. Google in "Alcoholics Anonymous, (your city, state)" and you should get a web address for your local AA General Service office with a list of meetings in your area (or at least a phone number for your local AA General Service office.) Try 90 meetings in 90 days. Go to different meetings, in different areas, at different times of the day, mixed men's and women's meetings, men's or women's only meetings, whatever strikes you. Try many meetings to make sure you don't end up with a bad impression if the meeting you go to doesn't make you happy to be there. Just a bunch of people with no hidden agendas, just a desire to help one another stay sober in finding a happy life. No strings attached.
I wish you much happiness.
It can get better. Keep the faith.
I have the same exact problem. This is my first time admitting I have a problem and looking for any sort of help or advice. I don't drink very often like you, but when I do drink I can't stop until I'm passed out somewhere. I usually don't remember getting home from wherever I go out to and definately don't remember getting to bed wherever I am. I think the only way to fix it is to avoid drinking all together because I know if i do try to have just a couple it will end the same way it always does.
One thought if you are an alcoholic or not, Between drinking binge's, are you planning the next one. When I was just "party" drinking, I may have only drank on week ends, or parties etc., but my thoughts were consumed with planning the next excuse to drink.
One definition of an alcoholic is that you drink when you didn't plan to, and once you start, you find you can't stop.
Rrooster, I completely understand the difficulty of determining the level of your dependency.
One thing that I found really helpful was learning how to effectively control drinking. There are some great, free tools out there.
http://www.onlineceucredit.com/ceus-online/tcd-controlled-drinking/continuing-education.html
RRooster,You do have a problem and you do see it, how far are you willing to go to get the help you need?Theres all kinda help out there today.But I found AA to be the only place i could stay sober.For me because all around me in that room are people just like me.No one to judge me just love and understanding..I pray you may fined peace my friend.God Bless you..{Keeping the Faith}
I had sent a supporter note; I am glad that you were honest & shared. You are soooo young and deserve so much. Blackouts are not a good thing; been there, done that. I do believe that to go to a face/face A.A. or N.A. meeting would be a good suggestion for you. Try at least 5. It is like right now, there is not a meeting where I am, but, there are online meetings and IF I could USE......drink & other safely , Oh Yes, I would. But, my consequences get more severe everytime I DRINK. That is where it starts for me anyways. I have found for me, It is a way to escape my reality. I, too am a binge drinker/user. I can go....a month, then the blackouts, the car accidents, no money, etc.......For me, I must surrender and go to meetings or seek help online meetings when I cannot get to one. It is a humbling experience but worth it. YOU are WORTH it.
Once again, Thank you for your Honesty not only here on the site BUT to yourself. Just For Today