binge eating is something that i have been struggling with for a while. it does not help that my mother keeps making fatty foods and stocking the house with junk food. i do great in the mornings and afternoons when im not at home, but when i get home it all goes down the drain. and i cant ask her to stop making/buying the junk food, she just gets amazingly angry and that does not help anything at all.
A....Welcome! Does your Mother realize WHY you are asking her to buy or not buy certain foods? Maybe an explanation would help.
Are you seeing a professional for your issues with food? Please consider the importance of this....you deserve to put this all behind you!
What can you do today to protect yourself from the pain of the eating disorder? Take care...Jan ♥
i ask my mom not to buy the things, like three bags of cheeots and like 5 fruit pies, but her reply is "im not going to change so dont ask me to." her having all these kinds of food in the house makes it really hard for me, and my father! we are both trying to eat better and loose weight.
and i would talk with someone, but my mother already freaked out on me once when i told her i got the number for a therapist and it really makes me not want to ask her again. i mean she sees one so i dont get y she is so up in arms about me going to one.
omg that's the exact thing i grew up with!!! my mom has ALWAYS had junk in her house, which was only one of the reasons i moved to my dads, but now it's almost been habit for me to do great throughout the morning and afternoon. Evenings instantly suck. in my mind i think i'm saying to myself "there's always tomorrow to fix it". tomorrow has been going on for years now. i want today to be the day that it all changes. by chance have you considered a depression medicine to cope with the stress you feel from your mom? i'm only curious because my doctor recommended one for me and i haven't started taking it yet because i'm worried it will only make me gain weight and feel less happy. tricks i've learned too for healthy eating are to carry healthy snacks with me all the time in my car. even asking your mom to buy 2 boxes of healthy granola bars, or a bag of carrots can help. that way you can carry a little baggy with you at all times. "an emergency kit" so to speak. lol.
I really think or hope at the end of the day if you confided in your mom the true reason, not the weight loss, she would be willing to make some changes. You should never feel scared to reach out for help, the end result of fear is courage. You can do this, please try xoxoxoxoxo
You know what might help both you and your father is: Seperate everybody's food. Ask your mom if she can put her food someplace in the kitchen where it is out of sight. Where it can not be seen by you and your dad. Then you have your food in your area. And your dad have his food in his area. continue to remind yourself that your mom's food is not your food.
This way it might save an argument from your mom.
If you try it, let me know how it works. I know it works for a lot of other people with ED that have family members who want their junk foods.
the anti depressent thing has crossed my mind, i think what scares me about that is that i know my mom takes it and i really dont want to be like my mother. i mean in some ways i do, but she idk how to put it. she gets mad if i have people over, and just runs up into her room and stays there the entire time that they are over.
and i have NEVER been able to talk to my mother. even when i was in the 6th grade i had to pass her a note asking her if i could shave my legs. communication reallly is not my familys strong point partially because she dosent consider herself an andreoli (she married into the andreoli's) she never has anything good to say. it hurts.