I don't know know how tired I am of being left in this situation. The guy in building 3 has finally made a move on me and we've gotten close. I can only say that I'd feel different if I felt like he was telling me the truth. Relationships are pretty pointless in every single way. I'm so tired of getting constant disappoint. I might just use him in the long run because he's honestly not really there.
Don't use anyone my friend. He may be your dream man. You should not use anyone anyway. I just turned 60 and I've had nothing but disappointment my entire life, but to use someone or lead them on is not my cup of tea, although it's all I ever see for myself. Still, it's bad and you shouldn't do it.
If you do not trust this guy, well it's either him ( perhaps he is a little shady) or its you ( trust issues ) either way why would you intentionally use someone treat others as you would like to be treated if you don't trust him get to know him better the truth always comes out you just need to be ready to except it why rush things hang out get to know him perhaps trust will come and then think about a closer relationship if not why bother
I've not sure. His text messages say one thing, but him in person says another. This is confusing and i've been testing him to see what he does. I have no intention of using him, but it would be bad. I've also poured my heart out to him and did little things. I've brought him dinner on several times when he was taking care of his dad. There was no reciprocation of doing little things rather than big gestures. I've hinted him again to do things like this. He might not know. I'm tired.
That is more news than you first disclosed. It's ok to help people but it is NOT ok to use people. When you do things for others, we should not expect them to do things for us. HOWEVER, you have to be careful not to be used yourself. Your observation is wise. If he has any kind of heart, he should be reciprocating a little because love is a two-way street. Giving is actually a two-way street too. From my experiences, I would slow down on the things you do for him. Don't flaunt kindness to him in unlimited amounts. The reason I say this is that he may be narcissistic. No sure. But one of the traits of a narcissist is that they use others or that they feel entitled to what others have. If you give, give, give and they don't act like they would give you the time of the day, then there is a chance of him being narcissist or, at the very least, not interested in you.
I've noticed that. He claims it, but its makes no sense. I've continually looked at because I'm a "pretty south asian girl that he continually tells me that he's attracted to me. It's purely a physical attraction and I should slow and down it's stressful. I've given multiple hints and he hasn't done it. It makes me wonder why I want to even bother. It's too messy.
@NShah9 Just slow down on your benevolence for now is what I recommend. You’ve done enough. Too much giving could either spoil him or drown him.
Okay. Guys are pointless. So is everyone in this world. I'm so drunk
People lack morals. A large portion of the population is out to use others. Faithfulness, love, loyalty, commitment, respect are almost non-existent today. And getting drunk over it will not make anyone any better.
Well, I don't have too many friends so why does it even matter? What's the point of morals anyways? Almost everyone in my life has let me down. Where all rats in the long run competing for something that we all want. It's okay to step on just about everyone in this world to get where you want. I know that know ones been there for me at all and to know that I'm unable to do what I want it's a mess.
No Friend, there is never a good enough reason to stoop so low as to relinquish morals. If you are the only one left then so be it. Let me say I just turned 60. I have been let down all my life, badly. I have been led on and dumped and cheated on. I choose not to treat others that way simply because it's wrong. I would not feel good about myself if I gave in and did something I deemed irresponsible, not that I don't make plenty of mistakes. I just don't go about planning to bring evil into peoples lives. It's not a good idea. Most people nowadays are out for self-satisfaction. Get used to it. They are all around us. It's going to get worse. But you don't have to join the class of losers!
I don't know what to say. There isn't any point in making relationships or having this battle in between staying true and self-satisfaction. It's pointless. I think i've made up my judgements and know that this guy is purely out for physical sex. I don't think he's had any since and has constantly lied to me. I remember getting a text from him saying that he hasn't had sex since such and such date. I'm starting to believe that it isn't what I considered and was always right. I'm tired of giving and being generous and having no ability to make a decent relationship with anyone.
@NShah9 You said “. I’m tired of giving and being generous and having no ability to make a decent relationship with anyone.” That’s the story of my life, always used and no one appreciates me. But I will NOT give in to stupidity or hatred. If no one will allow me to love them in the right way then I’m not going to share my loving heart with anyone.
Trust me sister!! I've been through it all. What gets me is that I don't want to have sex before marriage and I never, ever push for it out of respect for myself and her. Yet, I'm treated like a junk yard dog. Please don't sell yourself short! If sex is his motive, forget him!! I will tell you he will get bored. He will look for excitement elsewhere once you are married with younger, "better looking" women. NO! You want someone who loves you and who will stay loyal and faithful to YOU! If you have to settle for a wild sex dog, then stay single and don't bring miseries into your life. His telling you that he has not had sex since such and such a date tells me he keeps track, that he puts his experiences down in his memory or log book. It tells me it's so important to him that he keeps track of it. It's all he wants. It's all he goes for. Dump that pervert. Find a man who loves you and treats you with respect.
There are no men like that at all. I've given up any ability to form any relationship with anyone in my life time and manage to stay depressed. There is no point. At least there always is self-satisfaction. I'm done giving with anyone. My time, energy, and my huge disappointing measures.
@NShah9 Well, I know. Good people are few and far between. I know that. We’re corrupted by television and movies and songs now. It’s all out in the open. Porn is too common. No one has morals anymore. I’m thinking I will never find a good woman as a companion. But I won’t lower my standards. To die alone is better than to die with an enemy. I want a relationship more than anything in the world. I never think of how much money I want, or how nice a home to have. All I ever think about, all I’ve ever wanted is a nice, sincere woman who loves me who I can love. But I’m thinking it’ll never happen. I thought I had one with the last woman, but she turned out to be a narcissist, a user.
Yeah, I don't know what else to say. It's any unreasonable doubt that he's going to continue to pursue me because i'm pretty. So what if I give into stupidity and hatred?
@NShah9 If you give in to stupidity and hatred you will live a life of misery. He will cheat on you when you are even married with kids. Find a good man. Just go about your business each day. You never know! Don’t look for the alpha man. They come with headaches. Look for a sincere man.
There are no sincere men on this planet. There is no point in looking. ID be happy if I just die in peace .
If you end up in a bad relationship, you will really wish death would come upon you. Death would be a friend. There are very few sincere men. There are very few sincere women. Learn to love and appreciate yourself in a healthy way. Respect yourself. If you end up unmarried, there is no crime against that. I want a good woman more than anything, but if I don't get her I'll just carry on with life. I have things I like to do, like garden. It's not the end of the world!