I kind of feel like I’m sinking in quicksand at the moment. My oldest son has a Learning Disability that was never diagnosed with any fancy term or classification, other than the school faculty labeling it as a Learning Disability. I attended every IEP meeting, and I kept asking questions and writing down notes, but would misplace those notes whenever I took care of other important matters, and we kept moving around a lot. My wife kept scolding me for not getting him into the government programs, but like I told her, I didn’t know where to go or with whom I should talk to get the process started.
Eventually, during the last IEP meeting, one of the faculty members told me that the school can send the records to the local learning center for me if I fill out the papers, which I did. He’s a full-grown adult with an education level equivalent to 5th grade, and only 1 year left of state funded schooling as an adult. I just received notification from my Health Insurance companies that they will be dropping him from my insurance because of his age. He finally got approved to get tested for his disability, but the appointments are fully booked for the next 3 months. The last time I talked with my other son’s therapist about it, she told me that time is critical for getting him into the state funded programs because of his age, so he can support himself.
Whenever I research other options and programs for assistance, it seems like the only people who primarily can get assistance are diagnosed as autistic, which he is not diagnosed as that. I’m worried that he won’t be able to get medical and dental care as an adult or be able to take care of himself because of his disability, and he doesn’t understand what is going on or how the World works. It is looking like he is going to fall through the cracks.