I'm really stuck between a rock and a hard place. I asked my

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I'm really stuck between a rock and a hard place. I asked my husband to quit again we are on a fixed income and truly cant not afford last week he lied and took 40$ dollars out of the account. He lied and told me he found the weed around the house. When i as checking my balance it was off. Went thru the transactions d the day he said he was goung to watch our nephew at his karate class he took 40$ out thru the atm. Til me two lies no thst I think about it. Instead of going to th dojo he went to his dealer. ... didn't even think about that? ????? What do I do? I'm broke this week I have no gas money now I have appointments scheduled that I can't get to. What little bit of Christmas money I got went to my meds and groceries for kids. What fo I do? How vs I explain this without just loosing it on him

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Does he not understand how much that money is needed to keep you all afloat?

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@CKBlossom he says he does. But I think actions speak louDer than words. He obviously don’t or this wouldn’t so often. We had to go to this place that helps the disabled keep there utilities on over the winter to get our electric paid. It was embarrassing. We both are disabled so we weren’t lyin about our income or anything but honestly the only time I did that was when I first divorced and my kids were all toddlers. My kids are adults now

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So what I've done is set up 3 accounts one for me one for the wife one for paying all the bills. I took each bill looked at the total amount for the year divided by 12 and pay the average, so example electric bill averages about 900 a year 900÷12= 75 So I Pay 75 A Month I've done.that for all my bills, the left over money is pretty much divided in half and put into my free spending account and my wife's free spending account, I've found we never argue over money, that's what I've done.

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@Wayne72 we really don’t argue but I do allow him to suffer the effects like he wanna go out well hone we don’t have the money and I can see the guilt in his eyes. I don’t patronize him. I love him and If we had the money I would have no problem. And if he was honest I would get as upset. When I’m set I tell him I really don’t understand the need for it but please don’t lie. People f#$& up all the time. If I miss calculate or over spend I own up to it. I don’t lie.