I’ve been able to get back into porn and unhealthy sexual thoughts much less often and with more contentment. I’ve been enjoying more walking, exercising, and chores.
Problem is I still have many of my triggers for backsliding. There are many: i feel worthless without sex, so I backslide. I feel worthless if I don’t have a girlfriend like everyone else, so I backslide. This has led to forcing myself to be sexual in order to keep up with everyone else. I can’t do well enough at work without sexually stimulating myself (mentally) to motivate myself to work, so I backslide. I want to have a sex life as of now, but I don’t want my unhealthy thoughts to come back. How do I get better without thinking/doing things I regret?