It feels like it's never gonna stop
Lile I am rapped again and again and again
I felt nice
And then my mother discover the story
I was childish and I told her the truth ... that her brother molested me
All she was thinking about is my virginity since we are an arabic muslim family
I wzs shoked all she cares about was that
And now my sisters are blaming me for talking
My husband is the only one who really cares about me
I'm struggling right now and i don't know what to do or how to overcome this ****
I feel so sad and shame and blame and I can see the blame in their eyes like if it was my fault
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I'm very sorry that happened to you. Now on top of that you have no support from your family and even worse blamed like it's your fault. May I ask how old you were when he rapped you? Was it ongoing abuse or a one time rape? In the USA for the most part most mothers would be devastated that their child was abused but there are some dysfunctional people that blame the victim. Sometimes it's best to detach from those toxic family members and really limit your contact if not all together. You could look up hotline numbers to call for rape victims it would be helpful for you to talk to more professional people that are trained in this. You know and most of the world knows it is never the child's fault for any kind of abuse, no matter what culture or religion you are. It's pure ignorance for anyone to to blame the victim. But knowing that doesn't really help the victim much when you have actual family members adding to your trauma so please find a therapist or professional that's trained in abuse/rape. For now, it is best for you to stay away from these family members and do not talk to them about the abuse at this time because they actually traumatized yoy even more. I know they are family but do they care about you and care about the horrible abuse their family member went through????? No, they don't care that something so horrific happened to you and in fact they blame you, really?? THEY are the ones that should be ashamed of themselves for blaming a child for being raped! How sick is that????? That's really warped thinking no matter how they try to twist it or justify it. Come on now.
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@Fohb460
I was about 6 years okd when I remember the first time … and it lasts for many years until I became 16 years old
I talked about that when I was young but no one beleives me
I talked a second time but he always takes the advantage
For then I decide to never tell them and I accepted that I am a bad girl and it was my fault for being attractive this is what all my familly kerp telling me that I am so girly and I shoud’nt be like that
Now I feel that they don’t care about me and that makes me so sad now
I will seek for someone professional to help me overcoming this trauma
I just wanted someone to talk with safely
https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.rainn.org/resources&ved=2ahUKEwi14crq7bL6AhWeHjQIHTldBYIQFnoECBEQAQ&usg=AOvVaw0a0_9wzzNTgek8oieZskIm
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I'm so sorry to read this was your trauma story that you keep having to endure. 10 yrs of sexual abuse is insane.
Then it's compounded by family choosing their own egotistical feelings OVER your reality. I think this is difficult bc on one hand, they HAD to be told the reality about this person who is actually a criminal. On the other hand, you've opened a very difficult relationship 'door' with them about the abuser. They don't want to accept anything about him so they are going to take their FEAR of him, of the situation and what it says about them, and conveniently dump it all on 'you' as the 'Scapegoat' so they (in their own minds ) don't have to 'feel Responsible')...
That is sickening.
They are living in the horrific past, shoving it under the rug but this bad energy never goes away, it just shifts onto the NEXT generation. The abuse will shift to some other vulnerable child.
You are doing a good thing. Showing that it happened. It needs to be addressed.
If your family is not ready to accept the facts, you might have to distance yourself for a while but knowing how these situations go, be prepared to hear that they will blame you for that as well...
As Fohb460 says, glad that you have the support of your husband.
Get into some beneficial therapy so you can recover from this dispicable crime against children.
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@Littlesis7 i agree with you 100% it’s a horrific crime and I’m sure the rapist has other victims in the family too or he will. He will never stop.