Someone I knew died yesterday. He was a brilliant, wonderful man. What shocks me is how he died.
He crashed into rocks, flipped his car on PCH in Malibu and was found dead with severe head injuries. All because he was apparently tweeting while driving. Life is so short, it reminds me how often I waste my time with meaningless things. I need to appreciate every single day I have because you never know, that could be me one day. I spent all day telling everyone I love, just how much I love them. I wish I understood why bad things happen to good people. I'm sad.
bad things happen to good people because ........... now there u have me im afraid.
it could be because they have souls that are old and when the job they were put on earth for is done they go to be reincarnate for someone else who needs help along lifes stormy pathway?
or mayb it just seems that way as the news is full of doom and gloom and we dont expect the good to die so young or in such a shocking way?
im sorry that he died for whatever reason, its painfull and i try and tell my nearest and dearest that i love them daily (not that they appreciate it) cos u never know what is going to happen
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
Just weird. I’m not close with my extended family, never knew my grandparents so haven’t yet lost a family member to death, but I have lost a very special person in my life many years ago. I get that everyone will die at some point, but the person who I lost many years ago was quite literally the greatest guy I’ve ever known. And he impacted so many people’s lives, not just mine. We kept asking each other, why him? It took me many years to come to terms with his death, and I still think of him often. I’m not a very religious person, but I’m sure there’s a reason why things happen. I can never make sense of it. After his death, his parents were asking his friends for pictures and sadly enough, I only had a handful. After that, I made a point to literally document every aspect of mine and my friend’s lives in order to have tangible memories. I do that because I regret not having more pictures with him (his name was Brent btw). I’ve been a little sluggish with doing so recently, but I certainly have maintained my picture albums for several years now.
You’re right, we never know what’s going to happen and I suppose people’s death are a wake up call to appreciate and make the most of the time we do have. It’s a scary reality. Keep telling people daily you love them, whether they show appreciation or not. I guess carpe diem, literally.
xo, July
Brent sounds like the kinda guy who could walk in someones elses shoes with ease, he probably generated a lot of the action and not by being pushy just by himself and his interest in others around him.
its the missing energy that we all seem to remember and photo albums are a great idea to keep life moments,
but remember u all so are a wave creater u keep the circles going by doing daily things and impacting on others lives, and that is a legacy to all those who have gone before us
keep posting hon
as always
loving thoughts and positive vibes
Life hasn’t been the same since he’s been gone. But thank you Domestic, your loving thoughts are very helpful at a time like this. I appreciate you.
xo, July
I use to drive on Pacific Coast Hwy, so I hear you July, my heart goes out to you & D has such a way for all of us to remember the beautiful things with loved ones we've lost.
Take care of you July.
Love April
July, I am so very sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how you are feeling following your friend's death, though he is in a very peaceful place now. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Death is a very difficult thing for me to comprehend. I have tried to come to peace with it. I tell myself that I will be re-connected with all of my loved ones again in the next life. I really like your outlook on death Moongal, it's such a nice way of looking at it; one being an old soul and completing their mission here, then moving on.
Also, I truly agree that these moments truly make you appreciate life and every moment. I really do take life and time for granted at times, living life and thinking that I will be truly happy when..... I really want to embrace and love each and every moment. I bought numerous books and am doing research to change my ways; less work, more embracing life.
I do tell everyone in my life how much I love them and how much they mean to me just about every time we talk. I feel that it's so important to embrace relationships and let people know how much they mean.
Hey July,
I am so so sorry for your loss. You must be in such shock in that phase where you know what's happened but you don't really think it's real.
I like to think during that phase, it's not really real and the person hasn't completely gone yet, they are just wandering around saying their goodbyes to those who cared about them the most.
Why something like this happens, I can never say. All I offer is to take comfort in the fact that you knew this wonderful person, who enriched your life. And although he is gone to another place, part of your life has been shaped through knowing him and even through his death.
I am so sorry for your loss hun.
Loads of hugs and love to you
Moongal x
Thanks everyone for all the support. I really appreciate it.
July, I'm so sorry my friend.
It doesn't matter if he was family or not, he was someone you loved.
Death is never easy, expected or not. It takes away someone that you held close in your heart.
We don't always understand the why's and we may never understand them. Life (and death) is full of mystery.
Allow yourself time to grieve. It is a natural part of healing.
Remeber your friend for the good things about him, who he was and the joy he brought you.
Hey Beautiful,
Thanks for the encouraging words. I always allow myself to grieve and go through whatever it is I need to do in order to move forward. Losing people just makes me realize how important it is to make the most of every single day, relationship and most of all moment. Things happen, and most of the time they are out of our control. My friend was telling me, “the beginning is scary, the end is sad, it’s all the stuff in between that make life worth living.” I try to live my life to the fullest but it’s a sad reality that most of us don’t know what we have until it’s gone. Life is so complicated sometimes. I wish I understood it better.
xo, July
Hi July, how are you doing? I really hope that you are doing as well as can be. Please keep sharing. I am here to support you through this time in any way that I can. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hey Puppy,
Thanks for checking in with me. I am doing just fine. I’m on vacation with many close friends and many of them knew him as well. We spent time sharing all the great moments we shared with him, and instead of being sad, I was just happy I had the opportunity to know such a great man. People come in and out of our lives for reasons we may never understand. As much as I cherish the relationships that stick, the ones that came and are now gone are still special to me too. Every single person who has been in my life at some point has brought me to where I am in life. It’s so strange, I always resort back to the movie sliding doors, it’s so crazy to me how the slightest things can change your life forever. I am sad Frank is gone, but I am doing well and staying strong.
xo, July
July, thank you so much for the update. I am so happy to hear that you are surrounded by close friends and taking a much needed vacation I am sure. Your words are truly how I live my life and believe on the whole that everyone does come into our lives for a reason and leaves for a reason as well. They do mold us and make us into what we are today.
And, it's unbelievable that you also resort back to the movie Sliding Doors....as do I. I always always reference that movie. I've seen it numerous times and I find it to be so impactful and true.
Again, I am so happy that you are doing well and surrounded by good friends. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
I just lost my best friend. It has been really really hard.penny was more then just a friend. she was my family.we understood each other better then our biological family. I could talk to her about anything--unconditionally. the void that is here in my heart is indescribable. i feel such pain and sorrow. sooo lonely. wish i could talk to her just one more time.
Nanci, I am so sorry for your loss. You know though - you can ALWAYS talk to her. She may not be able to verbally talk back, but when you see a butterfly, or hear a certain song, or the breeze in the trees, or see a beautiful flower - she’s reminding you…your best friend is still with you.
Nancipowers, I am truly so very sorry for your loss and feel your pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
As Beautiful so wonderfully put, you can communicate with your friend, she is right there by your side and will always be with you.