Just ok, retired but bbboooorrreeeddd

just ok, retired but bbboooorrreeeddd

Wow I can't wait to retire, 6 more years for me... Don't you have any hobbies? :)

I love to read, but having cataract surgery in 2 days. When I do read I need to be where it's quiet or I can't concentrate. My husband complains because I'm in the other room (because of the tv) and says I don't spend enough time with him. He has gone through a lung transplant 6 yrs ago, and I really believe is going through depression, but then so am I. He has no hobbies or whatever, I tell him find something that will interest you, but to no avail. On the other hand, I am stuck, because I love him but cannot sit and watch tv with him.

i think the REAL problem is (hate to bring everyone down) total depression for both my husband and I. Since his lung transplant, all he thinks about is: the life expectancy of a transplant patient. I can totally understand this, 5 yrs. But he's going on 6 yrs. and going strong. Sure there's aches & pains, less strength, loss of weight (maybe all the meds) but he seems to be doing pretty good!! Can anyone help me with how I should treat him? As normal, or continue to encourage him?

The best thing is for both of you to take one day a time and try not to think too far into the future. My husband has lung problems as well and mostly sits around watching TV all day, which bores me to tears. If your husband won't go out with you or participate in any hobbies, you need to find yourself a hobby or interest to keep your mind stimulated. Would he mind if you went out for a couple of hours each day to take some time for yourself? Caregiving is very draining if you don't take breaks from it.

Hi, I retire five years ago. I lived running all my life, between work in Manhattan, my children, Mba, my husband cancer, etc. I wated the first year of being retired because I didn't know what I wanted to do. Little by little I started focusing on my self and my children, health therapists, PTs, gym, started tennis. Then I join a group called meetup.com. You joined free. There you will find local groups for everything under the sun; and you will join groups that have common interests with you. I joined a kayaking club, we kayak in the summer, and we hike in the winter. We socialize, they are all in my age bracket (60). So you will meet people just like you. I always have places to go, if I choose so. Go out, learn something new, volunteer. This is the time that we worked hard for. It is our time.

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