Im new to this group. Just wanted to say how incredibly lonely i am. Im divorced and have raised 5 kids. 2 daughter’s have passed away. Im raising the son of one of those daughter’s. My sons don’t seem to have time for me these days. My life feels absolutely empty. I feel so very alone.
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I’m so sorry to hear about everything you’ve been through. It sounds like you’ve faced unimaginable loss and have carried so much weight on your shoulders for so long. It’s completely understandable to feel lonely in the midst of all this.
Please know that you’re not alone in this group. We’re here to offer support and companionship, even if it’s just through words on a screen. It’s incredibly brave of you to reach out and share your feelings with us.
Raising five kids, especially under such difficult circumstances, is an incredible feat. And taking care of your grandson shows your strength and love as a parent and grandparent. But it’s also essential to take care of yourself and acknowledge your own needs.
If you ever need someone to talk to or just want to share your thoughts, this group is here for you. You deserve kindness, understanding, and support during this challenging time or you can contact me will try my best to support you and talk to you whenever you feels lonely.
Other people do not remove the feeling of loneliness. This is a very common false belief.
As you will probably know, when people are around you, you do not feel lonely. This is because other people serve as a distraction from your thoughts about being lonely, among other thoughts most likely.
But when the person/people go away, or you do not have something else to distract yourself, the feeing of loneliness comes right back.
The key is to stop giving attention to the thoughts that come to you and once you do that, those thoughts that cause the feeling of loneliness will recede and then disappear.
In addition, perhaps you have heard or read about people who are married, have a family, extended family, or have a social life, they work close together with other people, etc., yet they still feel alone.
So other people can’t stop the thoughts you have or change their intensity. Its an impossibility.
Once you choose not to suffer anymore (thoughts are the sole source of human suffering), you won’t ever feel lonely again.
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Your not alone . I can tell yous sons can be like that , got 2 and 3 nephews . Anytime you want to talk. I do be here.
I appreciate this video, I came here today feeling so depressed and lonely. This helped me feel less lonely. I have been overwhelmed lately and sometimes its just nice to know there are other people out there who can understand what that feels like. I always felt since I was young that there was something wrong with me. I know I am sensitive, I just need more connections to people who can identify with me. I hope I can find that.
Perhaps you need to watch the video once or more times. It really should stop you feeling lonely, completely, not just less. I have found that I need to watch videos about mental health more than once, because there is an enormous amount of information to take in, and the information is of a complex nature.
I too felt that there was something wrong with me when I was younger, as so many things were not working out for me despite my efforts - girls, work, socialising and lots that I just didn’t understand about people and life. It always seemed to me that other people knew what they wanted and were on their way to pursuing what they wanted, plus many people just seemed know how everything works in life, what to do in this or that situation, stuff I didn’t have the slightest clue about.
I only came to realise that there was nothing actually wrong with me (or anyone else) and discovering a great many things during my quest to end my suffering, things that no-one had ever said to me and lots of knowledge that just isn’t taught in the mainstream, at least in the west, which only teaches you stuff so that you can fit into the machine somewhere.
Also, can you tell me about your username?
Sorry, I am not on here much. My name has to do with mostly feeling invisible all my life. Like nobody really saw who I was, who I am.
You can learn, as I did, that the “me” is a fabrication of our minds and nothing more. A self-image, an ego, a belief that you actually are the things that you imagine you are.
The “me” is a prison, a trap, full of limitations, restrictions, consequences, obligations and chains tying a person to a thing/identity/idea/image. It stops a person from being free, of being free to do as they wish without regard to what they have done before or what other people think of what they have done before.
The less you think you are who you think you are, the freer you will become.
interesting thoughts. I will have to consider this.