Looking for suggestions on how to deal with some bisexual curiosities I have been having. I am a relatively happily married 42 year old male and have 2 wonderful children. I have, likely for some time, been hiding some sexual feelings regarding men, and have never acted upon them as I love my wife very much and very attracted to her as well. But over the years have been finding myself fantasizing more and more about men and have gone so far as to make profiles online, posing as different people both men and women, to start sexual conversations with men as it would turn me on. My wife has seen these conversations and obviously has been hurt by it as I have been hiding this part of my life from her. But because of the shame likely because of upbringing, I have not addressed these feelings and feel it is hurting my relationship significantly and don’t know what my next step needs to be. Honestly looking for a support group or counseling to guide me on the right path. Thanks
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@Fohb460 thank you so much!
well I can understand how you feel and what you are going through, I’ve been going through the same things for yrs now, but I’m not married… in fact, this didn’t start for me until about 10 yrs after my divorce… I still date and have relationships with women and currently have a very nice girlfriend, but I still have these strong urges to experience and live out my fantasies…
we should talk more about this… I do use porn and it helps, but these urges are always there… I do cruise the miss connections section of craigslist talking to guys that are looking for other guys and like you said, it’s a turn on but I haven’t acted on them… I was talking to one guy that I was really interested in meeting, but he stopped emailing me recently… I really think I would have acted on my urges with him, in fact, I’m sure I would have… LOL…
Be safe! If you do hookup, please let a friend or someone know who you are going to, just to be on the safe side.
I don’t know how your mate might respond to your Bi-curiosity, but I can guarantee you that secrets, subterfuge, and sneaking about are extremely corrosive to any relationship.