Hello everyone, just don't know what to do .... I just feel so lost, lonely and it doesn't seem to be getting better. I have started counseling and going to prayer night at church. But everything seems so overwhelming, just don't know what to do where to turn. I feel bad for everything, and my husband working out of state doesn't help at all. Anxiety kicks in and makes things even worse, Dr. put me on meds... but I really don't want to take them don't want to depend on them. I wish there was a place where I could go to, and make it all go away... Any suggestions, please share.
Hi Sweet pea! My name is Suzee and I suffer too, from sometimes crippling anxiety. Mine is from a lot of years of abuse and fear but it can be from anything and everything and sometimes we don't have a clue whats causing it.
I see you are brand new here so please let me say, Welcome to Supportgroups, we are glad you found us!!!
I am sorry for what you are going through but you are not alone here! The people here have been amazing. It's a very big place so please never lose faith if it takes a few days to get replies. Some of us can be here a little each day and others only once every few days etc.. But it definately doesn't mean you're being ignored!!! Everyone here matters!!!
When I went to my doctor she really, really wanted me to take meds and I didn't want to but boy was I glad I did!! Truly when we've got something in our bodies thrown off, the meds can really help to get us through it. I take an antidepressant and an as needed med for anxiety attacks. My anxiety has been increasing a LOT lately, but it's because I will be testifying in court for the first time next Tuesday and it's quite nerve wracking!!! :)
May I ask what your doctor has prescribed? There are many people here who have personal experience with many different meds. Each person is different so meds can effect each of us differently.
I hope my ramblings haven't put you to sleep!!! Again, nice to meet you!!
Yes, stay on your meds..... keep doing what you are doing and try to fill any voids in time with activities that will keep you busy with good things... Volunteer some time... Just do something, also do some reading of good books.
make sure you get good rest as well and drink plenty of water,
Suzee is right, you will get lots of support here. I know how you feel, when I started counseling again a couple of years ago, everything came to a head and I was getting worse. I realized that it was because I needed to find the root of all my issues (too many to go into right now). I am on meds too but didn't want to be. I used to argue with my counselor over it. I'm glad I stuck to it and doing ok. I still have my days and weeks (like this one) but I have to say this group has been wonderful. I'm glad I found it and I hope you get a positive experience out of it as well. Hang tough, it will get better with time and support.
Thank you all for the great support... and your kind words. My life is such a roller coaster, since I was a child. But somehow I always kept it under control, and now I can't. These are the meds, Sertraline, and Alprazolam when the anxiety gets very bad. After I read the comments, I started my meds again, but sometimes it just gets so overwhelming....
Right now I am having lots of marital problems, that it's just eating me up inside. I can't sleep, I can't focus on my work.... It's just been awful!! I keep on telling myself that I have been through worse, that I will get through this too. Weekend was okay, just don't feel like doing anything, I have to push myself to do the daily tasks that needs to get done.
My husband has been working out of state since March, he would come home every 6 to 8 weeks. When he left for his first trip in March, he came home and was acting very odd. Keeping cell phone off, or in vibrate always in his pocket. When he left, I couldn't get out of my mind, so I checked the phone bill, and he was talking to other women. One of them sent me a picture of him and her sitting in the bar.
So all these months have bee very hard, he says that he will be in town starting in Sept. and that he won't leave till next year in March again.
But this last trip, it's now been 5 weeks, he is spending lots of money; this weekend alone he spent $600, and then he would just not answer the phone. Or he would always say that he is working lots of hours, and communication really went cold. He doesn't care if he talks to me or doesn't.
I honestly think, that it is over. But it has been very hard on me....
well, how about just not worrying about him for a change and just work on yourself, it's not helping you any to be stressing out over your relationship.
maybe you just need to Be assertive with him and ask if the marraige is done or not, so you know the truth and you can then decide what you want to do with your life.
Yes, that is what I have been trying to do... just do things keep myself busy and deal with it when he comes back. I just been hurt one to many times...
There are good days and bad days, today it started out very good, and the afternoon hasn't been to good. It's hard, but just take it a day at a time. Now I take my medication faithfully and I also started going to the GYM.
My husband will be coming home in a couple of weeks, thats why my anxiety started building up. My mind is telling me, I really don't want a relationship like this anymore and my heart tells me different. Thank you so much, for asking...
Hi Julie, I'm so sorry that you anxiety is starting to build up. I know it's so hard to have these very intense different emotions, wondering what should I do? and how, why, where.... it's so easy for those emotions to kick us around and still know what we really want/need to do.
I'm glad you are going to he gym!! That is excellent!! I hope you are having a decent, peaceful Sunday! I'm sorry it took me so long to respond but I really I care about how you are doing!!!
Julie,
All i have to say is follow your heart. If it seems wrong it usually is.. So keep on your medicines, some can make you addictive like alprazolam i take that also. I don't feel addicted, but if i am i say so what. At least it keeps me from bouncing off the walls.
As for him coming home keep yourself busy with things you like, doesn't matter how small. Just to keep your mind off.
When he gets there don't say a word just hand over the phone bill and picture and let him explain. Then you can decide what to do. DON'T argue, if he tries it's his way of trying to get out of the problem HE'S created. So simply get up and leave, saying you can talk when you don't yell.
KNOWING IS WAY BETTER THAN WONDERING AND WORRYING ABOUT WHAT HE'S BEEN DOING.
You just have to remember that YOU didn't create the problem he did. So don't blame yourself, or let him try to blame you.