hi,
i emailed the married guy on a whim today......guess what i got in return.......NOTHING. I feel really stupid right now :(
You need to let him go and move on. It's not fair to him or to his wife and it is certainly not fair to torture yourself.
I was in love with this guy before, wrote to him while he was over seas in the military. He called me once a week from Afghanastan. When he came home we were supposed to be together. I waited, and waited and waited.....nothing. For about a month he called me every night and then finally told me he had a wife. Talk about feeling stupid!
oh that sucks! im so sorry to hear that! and you are right. i have to let him go. its my only option
It doesn’t suck…I never would have met my love.
You deserve not to be the “other woman” or 2nd best.
Wash your hands of him once and for all! You’ll be better for it!
thanks for you advice! i really appreciate your tell it like it is approach. its just what i need to hear :)
No problem sweetie! I can say that now having learned from my own mistakes!
I’ve always been told that I “shoot straight from the hip” and that I “don’t pull any punches”.
I’m just me and I’m real. I don’t know how to be fake. LOL!
Heather....
I know how hard it is to be done!! Sometimes that is what it takes is one last time to get that rejection for you to move on. I did it myself!! I know the weekends are hard but you need to keep busy...give yourself time to heal...I am sure god has something great in store for you!!! Take care
Michelle
Heather, don't be hard on yourself over this. We all have our weak moments and give in to temptations. But, it's all about what you do going forward. Learn and grow from this moment...close the door on him energetically and move away from him. Even if he does respond, delete the email immediately. You deserve so much more than this. Trust me, I get how it is to be single and lonely, but it's not worth going back to him and that type of relationship. Don't go backwards, you've come too far. I had the opportunity to go back last week and had to overcome all of the temptation. You just have to know that this will block you from meeting the right man. Don't allow anything to get in your way at this point.
I am here to help and support you in any way that I can. When you feel any type of temptation to contact him, just let us know that here.
thanks michelle and puppydogluvr!
I knew he would'nt respond and maybe michelle is right that i needed one last rejection to close the door for good.
I thank you for your support and if in the future i feel the need to email again, i will definately come on here first. :)
I feel like i will never meet the man that is going to treat me the way i deserve. i don't know if he even exists. i seem to the pick the ones that are just bad news.
Heather, please don't think that for a second. First, you have to break the cycle of these wrong men; do you see the warning signs early on and ride through them?
Know and believe that you deserve an amazing man who will give you so much love and compassion, as well as treat you with the utmost respect. Put it out to the Universe, imagine the type of man that you would like in your life.
You WILL meet this man, I just know it.
Don't feel stupid. Now you know. Screw him and find someone available and better!!!
July, I love your forthrightness!
Heather, just don’t screw him literally - that’s a can of worms you don’t want to open! LOL! Love ya girl!
Hey sweetie,
I am so sorry I have't been a better support right now, my comp got a virus and had to hand it in.
But hun, don't worry about, I've had more moments of weaknsses with the ex, then i care to remember.
But it is important to recognise. Ok you got no reply...that's not bad actually that's realy good. If he had you could be easily stuck back in this -oh i stil care for him and him for me and really what would be happening is that you would be stuck in a very painful place.
But now sweetie,you are free. I'm sure in that momet you were hurt a little but tat is nothing in comparion to being the girl who stands in the shade. And puppy is right don't be hard on yourelf. Youre doin great, you are still moving forward hun, remember that.
Love to you
MG x
Moongal, you're back, yay! Missed you and your brilliant words of wisdom, as well as compassionate and caring self.
I missed you too moongal!
Thanks Puppy and moongal...I appreciate your advice and kind words :)
Of course Heather, always here for you and want to help in any little way that I can. We'll get through this Singles silliness together :-)