need help and support to stop masturbating

hi, it’s my very first time telling about my addiction like openly. i am addicted to porn and masturbation and i feel ashamed about it. when i had done it i feel really very bad and i wanted to stop. i am an athlete also and it affects my performance physically. i have had back pain and still struggling with it because of my addiction i think so …
i do it when i am stressed i think .
i do it 2 -3 times a day . i literally wants to stop it
so i want you guys to help me

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Are you afraid to talk to a therapist? For every addiction there is a therapist that can and will help you. In the mean time, put a porn blocker on your phone, tablet, computer, however you access porn put a blocker on it. If you block the porn, will masturbating still be an issue?

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I would say first step either get rid of any porn you have or have someone hold it for you. No need to tell them what it is in detail, just a sealed box or something. Just like an alcoholic needs to stay away from bars you need to start making some spaces in your life that are free of temptation.
It might be easy to get mad at yourself but remember that punishing yourself won’t help. If beating yourself up hasn’t fixed it before, it won’t start now. Be patient with yourself and take your time.
Try to break out of the cycles that you were in. If there were certain times of day that give you trouble try finding somewhere else to be. Then try to find better outlets for the stress while your there. Doesn’t have to be the same place or even any place particular. Just as long as it’s a change.
I understand exercise can help a lot since it gives a lot of the same chemicals.

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for any of us addicts, the use of porn and masturbation is a coping tool. It was for me very much, I was stressed, or hurt, physical or emotionally and then it was time to bring out my addiction. It would give me a quick, short hit of feeling better about things. Just admitting you have an issue is a huge first step. The next part, i think it was so much hard, is to get some help. It can be an therapist or trusted friend to help you, or look at online support groups that are dedicated to addiction, SA or SAA are two big ones, they offer meetings, many times locally or over the phone.

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Trigger warning absolutely hate it. I used to do it 50-100 times a day everyday since age 5. My situation was so bad that i felt serious depression from it by 6th grade. I felt the difference between joy and sadness while doing it. (“Skipping it now to the future”)

, i am violent and i wish to self harm constantly. I find joy by inflicting pain on myself because of my upbringing. I will be starting soon again because i don’t enjoy life. I envision joy as cutting over the veins of my wrist like a drawing a watch because of the excitement for the past 2 days. It is because i know that i won’t get high. There isn’t enough porn to enjoy if you watch the same thing repeatedly. While i have reached this boredom right now. It’s leading up to self harm. It’s been since January 6th 2020 and I have to return back to self harm. =/. I am not happy living with myself apparently both ways, and i think about giving up everything i have without telling my wife. It’s because i really want to return back to self harm. I’m sorry if this is too much information but it’s how I feel everyday

in my opinion you should talk about it to your closed one. it will get better and most importantly you should find a hobby it will keep you busy. you should enjoy little things and think positive.

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yes i am afraid to talk to one. and i think so masturbating would still be an issue if i applied porn blockers as i do it when i am anxious and stressed
now these days i am trying to remian busy.

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What about trying one online? Would that still be scary?

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yes i dont know why but i want to overcome it by myself and dont want to be judged.

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A Therapist won’t judge you, they have seen and heard everything, but I understand the need to conquer issues on your own, but just be okay with the fact that we can’t always heal on our own.

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All answers lead back to self harm dependence

I want you to be my permanent therapist =). This website has improved my interest to seek out assistance from the bad experience that I felt along time ago walking into a therapist for consultation. I give 12 star rating out of 5 :slight_smile:
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it’s not a solution its escaping from reality.you have to face it so face it with courage …

You are sweet, but the good thing with online therapy I have heard from friends who use different services, if you don’t like a therapist, you just ask to switch, brilliant!

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Ya, internet therapy has changed dramatically since that incident.

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I am struggling with malabation but not the porn. But i do mine when ever i can or have time. So i know what you are going through.

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